random musings

So I was faced with an awkward unexpected moment today. I was at a meeting with a subordinate. She stopped to say his to her Mom, who I know from a prior job.  Her Mom & I were catching up and she told me that she had VSG four months ago and lost X#'s. I was so happy for her, and I would've have come out about my surgery, but since she is the mother of my subordinate; and my preference is not to share my surgery with wor****pt my mouth shut. I tried to divert the conversation to I know so and so had VSG too, but she of course circled back to my weight loss. She asked me if I had VSG- told her no. She asked me if I did it on my own.. I just said I'm working on it every day. Ugg-- my soul wanted to gab like she was a long lost girlfriend-- but I strict about not letting work folks in my personal business. 

Then I accompanied my staff person while she got her lunch. i saw  Larry & Lenny's cookie- I've heard about them- wanted to try one. (ehhhh...they are ok-- nothing to write home about and high in carbs...). She paid for the cookie for me, (I didn't ask she insisted) then held the damn cookie hostage with her lunch. All I could think about was the darn cookie as we were heading back to the office. I wanted to try it as we walked back to the car. Nooooo-- she had it with her stuff. Even when we were in the office she never handed it over-- I had to ask for it- which made me feel like a 3 year old asking for her 7th helping of dessert. 

Ok- enough complaining-- some good. Yesterday I had a perfect eating day. Mind you, last night I was feeling a bit miffed because I refused to allow myself the various nibbles that have been getting out of hand. Stuck through it and woke up feeling so proud of myself this morning. 

That's a tough position to be in. I'm a nurse manager of a primary care clinic and many of my staff subordinates know I had the surgery. I just don't care that much and tend to share what I want. Now I haven't announced it on FB or other outlets, I'm not THAT brave haha. I just have  a hard time being in situations where I might have to lie or not tell the whole truth.

To each his own!

I'm the same way chassibi! I just can't not tell about the surgery that gave me my life back. I spent most of my life thinking if I ate less or worked harder I could lose the weight. I can't stand to mislead someone else. Of course I even tell total strangers in Goodwill so there you have it! I have had several acquaintances that are considering surgery that have reached out to ask me questions and several are starting their journey now too! Each person has to do what feels right to them!

No one's business but yours, I totally agree Peach. I don't tell people at my work either. My Boss knows & one very close girlfriend at work and that's it, for me its very personal and very private.

Congrats on the perfect day of eating, that must have felt wonderful!!  Proud of you!!!

I am the same way. I am a very private person anyways. My husband, kids, mom and daddy knows. And that's it. My feelings are its really none of anybody's business what I do with my body. When people ask how I have lost I tell the truth. I say I have completely changed my diet and I go to the gym 5 days a week. 

Way to go on the awesome eating Yesterday!

That is tough, especially when someone come right out and asks you. I never felt the need to announce it, but haven't felt the need to hide it. Are there a few people I wish I didn't tell? Absolutely, bu****er under the bridge as they say.

If I am not in the talking mood, I usually just say 'Oh, I've just been working hard' or 'Basically eating a low-carb diet' which are both the truth.

Yay for a perfect eating day!!

Ugh!! That is so tough and I totally get why you didn't say anything. I don't think I would have either in that situation. I'm in HR and prefer not to discuss personal stuff at work at all, which can be difficult since I'm an open book about everything lol.

And I would have wanted to snatch the damn cookie from her lol!

YAY to a perfect eating day :)

That would be tough but I understand why you stick to your guns. 

Im pretty open about the fact I will be having surgery. But there is this one girl who works with my husband and is constantly talking to him about it!  First she was telling him about all the possible complications (she had RNY. A year ago). I messaged her and asked her to stop because he's not crazy about the idea of surgery to begin with. Then she tells him I didn't come out to the coffee support group we belong to. Anyway that's the only case where I almost wish she didn't know. Most people are very supportive.