Disappointed?

Today marks 4 weeks since my RNY. I have had a model recovery, no real issues and am feeling great. 

My weight loss since surgery as of this morning is 16 pounds. That's an average of 4 pounds per week. So why do I feel disappointed? I never could've lost 16 pounds in a month pre-surgery, I don't know why I feel this way. Adding to my self-disgust is the fact that I think I'm irritating my husband reporting my weekly weight loss. I never talked about it before and I guess I just need validation that I'm doing well at this. He tells me I'm doing well but maybe I'm being needy. 

All of this just proves that I have significant "head issues" in addition to my weight problems. 

BTW, I checked what my weight loss would average via OH and I am right on track, so academically I know I'm doing fine. Just needed to vent here I guess and not irritate my poor husband.  

Good morning! That is why this site is so great-we all can relate and offer support. You're doing great and dealing with some very emotional things too (how was the travel at Haiti?) Hang in there and keep up the great work! 

It was a fast exhausting trip, I'm glad I went and glad it's over! Thanks for asking. 

As the Postop planner probably verified, it will take about a year to get off the 100 pounds that will get you to goal.  Weight loss surgery does not give super fast weight loss.  It gives a tool to use to keep the weight off after you lose it.

Sounds to me like you are doing great! That's about how I did my first month and I got below goal. Just keep plugging along and you will get there too!

Hi Chassibi,

I'm struggling withe very same issues this morning. I had my weight tracker set at 270 for my starting weight, but the actual day of surgery, just a couple of days later, I was 262. I Just adjusted it in order to be honest with myself. I'm still down a bunch from my consult weight, just like you. I'm trying to keep the big picture in mind here. I see the people who lose 100 pounds in six months and am jealous! I just need to trust the process.

You are doing really well, and right on track.  You will measure your weight loss over the long haul. Weekly, or even monthly, totals don't matter by themselves, but every pound adds to the long term total.  This is not a sprint, but rather a marathon.  

You are going through a lot of changes, so it is normal to feel anxious about his whole process, and to want to talk about it.  It is difficult for our family and friends to understand our obsession with our new life.  That is why we are here for you, because we understand. 

Enjoy the journey.  You got this!

That's what the forums are great for sharing with people who will understand and have been there/are there.

The day after you get to a certain # on the scale you will wake up and nothing will have changed... there is no finish line...  just more of the same healthy choices in eating, moving your body, vits, water, and working on the head stuff... I'd suggest just focusing on those changes and IMHO the "head stuff" is the most important part of this... highly recommend work in that area. 

Be thankful the weight is not coming off any faster.  Your brain adjustment to the "new you" can be tough; any faster and it may be more tough. WLS is an adjustment for everybody around you so it's great you noticed your DH's irritation.  One day, out of the blue, my DH confessed he could no longer fake enjoying the homemade protein smoothie concoctions I was so proudly sharing with him.  Keep venting; there's loads of understanding here. You are doing dandy.

I know how you feel. I realized that I did the same thing with my family. It must get irritating for them after a while. They try to be supportive, but only those that have been there will really understand. So, now I don't mention it as much. I find them asking questions more often now. Just keep coming here to vent. 

You are doing great! It's hard not to compare yourself to others. I found myself saying 'I've only lost 60 pounds'. There's no ONLY about it. I have 60 less pounds to carry up the stairs with me. Lol. You will get there. Just follow the plan.