Surgery is 19 days away and im desperate for support!

Im new here but my surgeon suggested some forums to look into to talk my surgery is june 8th and im very nervous anyone just have surgery or have upcoming surgery soon?

It's the BEST thing I've ever done...You won't be sorry :)

That's what everyone says? im very excited and very nervous and anxious at the same time,  it's all i think about. Id never thought in a million years i would go through with something like this, but im so done with being heavy and not being able to live fully. I have a 2 year old and can barley keep up. Any suggestions or advice you have?

I am two months out. Prior to surgery I was a nervous wreck. A wreck about the surgery itself, a wreck about how I am going to lose my best friend, etc.   

i can say today that the grass is greener, the sun shines brighter. I lost my best friend and realized that food wasnt my best friend and wasnt there to support me in living. Adios to that way of living. It is an adjustment. So glad I found this website.  Good luck

Thank you so much, im glad i found this site to alot of people go through same questions and experiences makes me feel comfortable to talk and have a better understanding.  I have terrible anxiety issues as far ago as being a child so i freak out and want reassurance.. im very happy its working out for you.  My pre op is Monday than liquid diet starts wendsday :) and doing this on top of smoking for 13 years i quite cold turkey 2 weeks ago... and moving next weekend haha. Alot at one time and have a 2 year old running around, im excited for my changes 

I just had RNY surgery last May 12th.  I've had difficulty walking from a messed-up knee for the past 6 months.  I've also suffered from a bad back for about a year.  This has all been weight-related; I was 300 pounds when I started this process.  

This appears to be the best decision I've made in my life.  I had my surgery, and the most difficult part was getting put out with the anesthesia.  I fought it every second and the anesthesia was so strong, that I felt like I was suffocating.  I started tapping on the operating table to let the anesthesiologist know something was up.  The last thing I remember was hearing him say, "everything is okay, just relax."  Then it was like no time had passed at all, and I woke up in the recovery room.

In  9 days, I have literally dropped 1 shirt size from 3XL to 2XL, and 17 whole pounds.  I can actually see my jaw bone for the first time in a few years.  I am feeling surprisingly energetic, walking more, and feel refreshingly optimistic--and hopefully that is not just a side effect of the copious amounts of painkillers I have been prescribed.  

I have not suffered from "head hunger" like I thought I would.  I went to the mall and passed a few restaurants, and the food smelled delicious; but since my body is no longer producing so much of the ghrelin hormone due to my stomach being "resized," it did not immediately make me want to eat that food.  I have not felt hungry at all in 9 days; in fact, it is almost as if only smelling the food, satisfies the need to actually eat it.  It's not surprising because the majority of our sensation of taste, is , in fact, smell.  Or I should say, if we lost our ability to smell, eating might not be very pleasurable at all; we would hardly be able to taste without smell.  So I find that enjoying the smell of foods I can no longer eat, helps me feel like I'm not so restricted.

Anyways, that might be kind of irrelevant.  You're probably in good hands with your surgeon, and have nothing to fear.  It has been great for me so far, and if you have no complications, you absolutely will not regret this, unless you enjoy being morbidly obese and enjoy all the perks of this disease, like not being able to ride a roller coaster or being discriminated against for having a health issue. 

Thank you that definitely helped with the big picture i don't think anyone likes being obese :/ I've ran across people who are obese who say the are 100% happy with themselfes and in the back of my head i wondered how? There's no way? Confidence in your self is one thing but health is  also a factor. Like right now it almost seems selfish to not get this surgery specially when it comes to my 2 year old son whom is my world, i dont want him to remember me this way.  I want to be that active mom who can run around with him and throw a ball without losing my breath. So telling myself those things makes everything worth it.  I'm happy i found this support group :) I'm glad everything is going good for you this far,  it can only get better now right? Keep me updated with your process please. 

I'm only 5 days post op but already feeling better. Just like everyone on here told me I would!

I had my daughter's graduation party today with tons of food and while I could appreciate that it looked good, I didn't really have a desire to eat it. I looked at the sub sandwich and thought, oh yeah, that tastes good, and moved on. I've never had or been to a party that was a people event and not a food event. In the past I would have been in the kitchen eating cake and extra food and not hanging out with people.

A huge success for only having surgery on Monday! And so much happier!

I am six weeks out from surgery.  Going into it I think I worked myself into a state of paranoia.  I spent hours every night researching the worst case scenarios and horror stories.  The night before my surgery I barely slept.  In the waiting room at the hospital I was trying to figure out if I could just run and forget all about it.  I was terrified that I'd made the wrong decision and that I was setting myself up for a lifetime of misery by not being able to eat "normally".  Right up to the point they rolled me into the operating room I was debating on getting my big ass off the bed and running for the hills in a hospital gown (you'd think a hospital that does bariatric surgery every day would have gowns bigger that an XL).  I was terrified that recovery would be brutal and I'd be lucky to be back at work in a month.

I have NEVER been more wrong about anything in my life.

The rolled me into surgery, the next thing I knew I was waking up in recovery.  I tried to get them to let me walk from recovery to my room but they insisted that I stay in the bed.  The doctor wanted me up and walking as soon as possible (blood clots).....I was walking the halls three minutes after getting into my room.  The only pain I EVER had was a little itching from the staples.  The pain med prescription I received is still in the unopened Walgreens bag in the cabinet.  By 2:00 that afternoon I was asking if I could go on home (they insisted I spend the night for observation).  The next day I could have gone back to work.  Funny thing, though, I tried to get dressed in the same clothes I'd worn in the day before and my shirt was tight.  I didn't know they inflate your belly like a balloon to get more room to operate and it takes a while to "deflate".

Post op has been a breeze.  I have a bigger problem with remembering to eat than anything else.  There are days when I look at the clock and realize that it's 3:00 and I haven't had lunch.  One egg for breakfast and one protein shake for lunch was a really easy transition to make.  I'm never hungry.  Dinner took a little getting used to but everyone got used to it in no time and just eating a piece of fish while everyone else has full meals isn't a big deal now.  Going out to dinner with friends terrified me at first, now I feel like an idiot for thinking that my diet plan was going to change things.  They eat what they eat, I eat what I eat, and nobody even thinks about it.

I lost 40 pounds during my three month pre-op diet and I'm down another 40 since surgery (starting weight was 509 pounds)  My clothes are already getting too loose, people with no idea about the surgery are starting to mention that I'm losing a lot of weight, and as much of a cliche' as it is I'm feeling a lot better.  Physically maybe not really feeling it but mentally I'm THRILLED with what this is going to mean I'm able to do for the rest of my life.

I can't stress enough how happy I am with the decision to go through with it.  I'm just kicking myself that I didn't do it five years ago when my doctor first asked me about it.

Hi!! Welcome and congrats about getting your date -- its on my bday :)  Good luck. 

I just had my surgery on the 5/17.  Everyone on here has been so nice and helpful.  If it wasn't for here I would be completely lost. 

Keep in touch and don't be afraid to reach out to everyone :)