Disappointed in my spouse

*Nearly* all of us become boring and self absorbed in the first year or two.  Honestly, everyone gets fed up of hearing about it - you can see them glaze over when you start "sharing" your struggles!

Your husband didn't have WLS, and I'm sure he started off being supportive, but I'm guessing you've beaten him down lol.

Come here every day and say what you've eaten, what you weigh, how much you've worked out - you'll get a somewhat willing audience.  

All those "friends don't want to know" "unsupportive spouses"  etc are mostly just people we have bored to a point they can't do it any more

Believe me, you will become a reasonable human being in time and WLS won't be the only thing you know to talk about and then you can go back to loving your husband, family and friends who have stuck around for the long haul ...  hopefully!

I can see where your husband is coming from because I know that I became that person when I had cancer. I became obsessed with breast cancer and let it consume my life for years. My only friends were the ones I made through cancer, I traveled to conferences about cancer, posted on FB about cancer and generally was only about cancer. I understand now that it was how I dealt with it and the survivor's guilt I felt and I'm lucky my husband was awesome and supportive through that. And I saw therapists on and off.

So I also became obsessed with WLS but it only lasted a few months - I'm still obsessed with it but I keep it mainly here and with my therapist. I obviously talk about it with my BFF and my husband but not to the point that I would have if I hadn't gone through the above. I understand why you're talking about it to your husband - I have no friends in the immediate area either, they're all far away too. But your husband has a life too and he wants to talk about other things I'm sure, whatever you talked about before the surgery. The counselor is a great step. Don't falter on what you're doing for yourself but try to understand where he is coming from too.

This is such a thoughtful and on-point reply. ^^

Everyone has had great advice,  but I also want to add what had been helpful to me.  I met a WLS "buddy" here on OH. We became friends on Facebook and now if either of us are having a hard time,  or need to vent,  we message. That way I don't have to whine to others who won't understand and will never have the same issues.  

Find someone here that you click with and be supportive of each other. My buddy is MelissaSue1982. ?

God love my poor ol' husband; he does his best but I can tell sometimes he probably wants to just eat ME and get it over with LOL!!!!  I am absolutely a fanatic about food so I know it drives him crazy at times...but he does a wonderful job being my only support!!!  He is extremely nice and I've had to ask him to even tell me no or remind me of how sick I can get when I eat what I'm not supposed to.  Sometimes I tell him to shush and other times I tell him thank you...but it's like, he really knows and understands that.  I talk about, read about, Google up and down, etc. all about food, nutrition, and exercise and I am thankful that my husband just lets me go off in my own little world about that stuff.  Bless him!!!

Its not so much a fanatic about food or that I obsess over the scale its the emotional stuff that comes along with all the changes.  I didn't realize every time I'd pass the dunkin donuts/baskin robbins sign I would tear up missing my carmel cappucino blast in the afternoons and my iced carmel latte in the mornings with 2 boston creme donuts yes people 2-5x per week M-F, I was addicted.  Or that I'd get frustrated when we go out to eat looking at the menu trying to find something I can even eat.  Or that I'd love the weight loss but not all the saggy skin and bubbly looking thighs I now have, or that my breasts are more like waving flags.  Its the emotional stuff.  Bottom line I have appointment with my counselor Tuesday night but I must say Im really having emotional ups and downs since having this surgery and its more now than it has been.