"You're getting too skinny" and other comments

TK1966
on 4/18/16 4:58 pm - Canada
RNY on 11/17/15

I have read other members experiences with this and have been ready with responses like "I am following my surgeons plan", "I didn't have surgery to still be considered overweight" etc. But what I didn't know is how this can start to worm into your head.

It has me feeling a little uncertain. Right now my BMI is at 29 something. I am overweight. I've lost 75% of my excess weight and want to see 100% and then decide from there where I want to see myself...where I am happiest.

I don't want to hear every time I go somewhere - you are getting too skinny, you should stop now and other things.

It's so strange to be in this space...a year ago I was embarrassed to go out in public and worrying if my spring clothes would fit.

Referral made Sept 2014 / RNY @ TWH Nov 17, 2015 - Dr T Jackson

Height: 5' 10" | Born: 1966

Lost on 2 weeks Opti - 14.4

Post Surgery - M1 - 16.4| M2 - 16 | M3 - 16.2 | M4 - 10 | M5 - 10 | M6 - 6.2 | M7 - 6.2 | M8 - 1.6 | M9 - 3.6 | M10 - 2.4

    

Laura in Texas
on 4/18/16 6:09 pm

Comments do eventually stop. Stick to your plan. 

Laura in Texas

53 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 170 (BMI=27)

RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis

brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco

"May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears."

TK1966
on 4/18/16 6:43 pm - Canada
RNY on 11/17/15

Thanks Laura!

Referral made Sept 2014 / RNY @ TWH Nov 17, 2015 - Dr T Jackson

Height: 5' 10" | Born: 1966

Lost on 2 weeks Opti - 14.4

Post Surgery - M1 - 16.4| M2 - 16 | M3 - 16.2 | M4 - 10 | M5 - 10 | M6 - 6.2 | M7 - 6.2 | M8 - 1.6 | M9 - 3.6 | M10 - 2.4

    

ShadeMcG
on 4/19/16 6:44 am
RNY on 11/04/12

Laura's right...the people you know will forget in time...the new people you meet will never know...weird that those new people will sometimes make comments though like "but you and your skinny self would never understand"...lol

    Life is not a dress rehearsal.

    Height:  5'11", Highest Weight:  281  Surgery Weight:  266 Goal Weight:  165  Current Weight:  170

    

MonaLisaSmile
on 4/18/16 6:41 pm - Canada

I hear ya !!!!  Let the haters hate ...I say ...    Lol !!!!!!

This whole thing was never about anyone else's opinion...so don't let it be now.  This is all about you..what you want...where you are comfortable.  Don't let anyone bring you down .... or try to steal your thunder !!!!  You are living your dream and YOU are AWESOME  !!! 

  SW- 260    GW- 150    CW -138    Height - 5'5      RNY- St Josephs Hamilton July 17/2015  

TK1966
on 4/18/16 6:44 pm - Canada
RNY on 11/17/15

Thanks! :)

Referral made Sept 2014 / RNY @ TWH Nov 17, 2015 - Dr T Jackson

Height: 5' 10" | Born: 1966

Lost on 2 weeks Opti - 14.4

Post Surgery - M1 - 16.4| M2 - 16 | M3 - 16.2 | M4 - 10 | M5 - 10 | M6 - 6.2 | M7 - 6.2 | M8 - 1.6 | M9 - 3.6 | M10 - 2.4

    

Grim_Traveller
on 4/18/16 6:44 pm
RNY on 08/21/12

What Laura said. Take it as a misguided compliment, and keep doing what you're doing.

6'3" tall, male.

Highest weight was 475. RNY on 08/21/12. Current weight: 198.

M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.

TK1966
on 4/18/16 6:56 pm - Canada
RNY on 11/17/15

Thanks Grimm!

Referral made Sept 2014 / RNY @ TWH Nov 17, 2015 - Dr T Jackson

Height: 5' 10" | Born: 1966

Lost on 2 weeks Opti - 14.4

Post Surgery - M1 - 16.4| M2 - 16 | M3 - 16.2 | M4 - 10 | M5 - 10 | M6 - 6.2 | M7 - 6.2 | M8 - 1.6 | M9 - 3.6 | M10 - 2.4

    

White Dove
on 4/18/16 6:59 pm - Warren, OH

I got too skinny for about a year and thoroughly enjoyed it.  Don't let people bother you.

Real life begins where your comfort zone ends

H.A.L.A B.
on 4/18/16 7:05 pm

As we are losing weight - we may look smaller than we are. Skin gets bit more wrinkly... The clothes don't fit - just hangs... Plus people are used to us bigger... 

Just smile, nod, and walk away...  

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"

"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."

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