5 months

hey guys! I had my RNY on 11/16/15 and I am 95 lbs down! I know I can hit 100 before my 5 month mark! Anyway, 95 lbs is great, right? So why do I feel depressed and ashamed of it?!? It sounds crazy when I say it out loud but that's how I feel. I guess I feel this way because I still have a lot more to lose...sw 375 cw 280. Anyone else feel like this, ever? Comparison is the thief of happiness, they say. Maybe that's it? I don't know....I'm rambling because I have no idea...I just feel alone in this I guess. I'm not...I go to support group, have amazing friends, and my mom had the surgery 6 months before me! Maybe I am just PMSing and moody!   

In order to get to 180, you had to get to 280.  So, now youre prepared to take the next step.  Youre being awfully tough on yourself.  You'll get there.

We all have those moments... just have to keep pressing on. There is pressure the first year to get it all off.... this is a marathon not a sprint. It will happen if you stick with it. I had similar starting number to you...I was a little heavier... lost 165lbs by one year and was at goal by about 19 months...weight loss doesn't happen in an even fashion once you get further out...some weeks, some months will be better than others.

You probably feel worlds betteter at 280 than 375.  Be proud of that.

I know how you feel. I started at 363, so when I hit the 100lb mark I could barely feel excited about it. I just saw the #263 and sighed. Even now after losing 170+ lbs sometimes I feel proud of myself, and other times I feel ashamed that I had that much weight to lose. I think the mental challenge of losing weight is sometimes the hardest.

Yes! The brain game is the hardest part for me.  I find I spend more negative self talk time now than I did before surgery.  I hear it gets better over time so I just keep working on it and try to enjoy the journey.

~Elizabeth

This reminds me of a recent epiphany I had about dieting BEFORE surgery.  I was telling a friend that I've realized that I never would've lost the weight without surgery.  In part, its because there was such little "instant gratification" involved.  When I was 320, I'd work my ass off and still beat myself up for being 275. Then it would get me down and I'd gain it back.  It was never going to happen.

You know now that you DEFINITELY have the tools and capacity to lose the weight.  Before surgery, you couldnt be sure of that.  But, now you can be sure.  Its no longer simply about "will power" or "mindset".  You have the biological tools you need.