One Mild Disappointment For Me

I can understand your desire to have another child. I had custody of my granddaughter for her first year bringing her home from the hospital. Really have a bond. I won't say I love her more than my other grands 8 presently with possibly 2 more by adoption in the near future (actually her half sisters). They moved almost 1000 miles away and I miss my little princess TERRIBLY. Thank goodness for skype. I don't know God's plan for you but if not a pregnancy maybe an adoption or fostering. There are so many children who are in the foster system needing a loving family and many do become eligible for adoption. Something to consider if a pregnancy isn't in your future. I send my prayers your way.

I am willing to guess that you aren't in menopause, although it is certainly possible.  Many women don't have periods for a long time after major weight loss.  Any many women have been surprised by a pregnancy when they thought their baby days were over.

However, age is against you but there are so many breakthroughs in fertility these days that you can never say never.  I keep hearing about women in their 50's and 60's (and beyond) having babies through donor eggs and IVF.  Me?  I think I would jump in front of a train if I found out I was pregnant.  Not really, I would sell my story to the tabloids since I've had a hysterectomy.

Anyway, there are different ways to have a family.  I struggled with infertility for years, partially the result of crazy dieting and weight loss fluctuations that messed my system up pretty bad.  My first son was adopted, the second the result of a lot of treatment.  The third was kind of a surprise and by the time I got to 4 and 5 I think I had it down.

Good luck to you and I hope you get the family you want.

I have discussed the situation with my husband and he is all for IVF, we would be self pay and its anywhere from 15-20k one try with donor egg.  I have managed to save 14k and now my mind is like hmmmm try IVF one time which may or may not work, or get lower body lift, neck sagging surgery done.  Im beginning to think perhaps its time to focus on me, something I've never done my entire life.  Not 100% sure either way.