Frustrated - feel like a science experiment

I do not discuss how much weight I have lost. Esp. In the beginning, I would just say, 'I have made a decision not to share the number, maybe I will at some point, I don't know' Or if they asked how much I would just say "alot" People stopped asking, and mostly now if they feel like commenting they will just say, 'you look great' A fwe close friends I have shared with at different points, but it is not like I keep them updated.

Some times people don't realize what you need. Maybe call up a friend and tell them... I could use a visit. Sometimes we want people to do the right thing...but they are human too. I don't always do the right thing.

I just had a different surgery last month. My son did call me the night before. Then nothing for 2 weeks. I got texts from my DIL, but you are my son. So I sent him a text- Hey how are you, I haven't heard boo from you. I got a text back..."Oh I am following what is going on"... still hasn't called me a month later. Aye... it is hard sometimes.

I live alone also, so I do know sometimes I need to do the reaching out for what I need.

I didn't read every single reply, so forgive me if I repeat someone else. 

People in general don't seem to have compassion or care for others anymore. The days of bringing flowers or dropping a card by are long gone. Replaced by texts and FB messages. I'm also starting to notice less empathy for others and a more "suck it up" mentality, like we all have to be strong all the time. Well no, you don't, to put it simply. Sometimes we need a hug and a box of nice smelling soap or even an "atta girl" for going through this difficult (and no one knows how difficult unless you've done it) surgery, recovery and lifestyle change. So screw them. You can do this and you rock mama!!!  I'm here to say ATTA GIRL LISA!!!  We got this, I'm right there with ya sister (day 9).   Soon this will all be in the rear view mirror and they will wish they were as hot (and healthy of course) as we are, so let those "friends" gossip and talk it up, pretty soon you'll leave them in the dust. 

Big big HUGS!!!!  Much love and blessings to you friend! 

Jen

Thank you everyone.

I read and took in everyone's words. It made me feel not so alone.

thank you again! Love to you All!