NOT an over eater BUT an under eater
Hi Aldade!
How would surgery help you if you do not eat pre-op? What are your stats? Are you in a motorized wheel chair? Unless there is something terribly wrong with your metabolism or maybe you are retaining tons of water, the truth is you would be thin even if you layed in bed all day if you took in very little calories.
Good luck! Sorry but I do not believe weight loss surgery will work for you if you are being honest with yourself and do not truly eat.
Layla
When people look at me they see a very large and over weight person....and ASSume that it is because I eat the wrong foods, sit on my butt all day and that I don't care about my body. The truth is, I am an under eater. I gained the majority of my weight after having lower back surgery in 2000 and no longer being able to physically do what I use to do,....on top of not eating regularly or only eating once a day. I am a person that can go a day without eating and not think anything of it. With the pre-rec stuff for insurance approval,...many days I struggled to consume enough calories in a day and had to force myself to eat more....I am very aware that with the very quickly approaching surgery I WILL HAVE to make sure I am eatting enough, even if I don't want to, and to keep getting my protien ect.....I guess I am just looking to see if there is anyone else who is the same way, or faced these same struggles?!?!?
Did anyone fear that they would not be successful with the surgery?? I, like a lot of others out there, have been on FAR too many diets without success....and so much effort and to not have been successful.....that after the RNY will it be the same way? I clearly think that my body likes being a chunky plump butt and I hope this is not all for not.....with that said, I will have to work my butt off to lose and maintain for the rest of my life and am willing to do that soley for myself.....this is an adventure for me. I guess I am just looking for affermation that the feelings I am having, that I am not the only 1.
I am not saying you are lying but I am saying it is impossible to become super morbidly obese without eating huge amounts of calories, way more than you burn.
I think this is what everyone here is trying to tell her, she just doesn't seem to want to believe it. We've all been there, not wanting to admit that we're the problem and it's our fault we are obese. It's much easier to believe that I'm fat because I don't eat enough and my body is in starvation mode. Or I'm fat because I don't have time to cook for myself so I have to eat fast food instead. Its like anything else it's easier to blame everything and everyone else instead of admitting the truth, that we have a problem. I know I used to lie to everyone and everything about why I wasn't losing weight. It's probably the biggest part that needs fixing in this weight loss journey we're on. I still do it on occasion because I'm under my goal weight I tell myself I can eat a handful of chips its no big deal. Thankfully it's becoming very rare that I do it because I know those chips are what made me obese.
Hopefully her coming here and being called out by everyone who has done what she's done and been where she's been will force her to realize she is only fooling herself. It may sound mean to her now or like everyone is picking on her but ultimately I believe it's for her own good and it's because people here honestly want to see everyone succeed.