Emotional eating - how do you get through it?
on 9/24/15 11:10 am
It is very hard sometimes when you have kids. You feel you have to make everything better for them. It sucks when you can't fix things.
Sometime things have to work out on their own. You have to put yourself first to help you get healthier I know easier said than done. If your not happy then no one is happy. I have two kids one is in college and the other one is on his own three states away. It is very hard when they call me and tell me something is going on that I can't fix. In the beginning I would be so upset and I would work myself into a panic and I would feel awful. Where they were fine and moving on to something else.
I think you have to say to yourself that you are worth it. Traditions can always be changed. Next time make something you all can enjoy together. Have the kids make a menu that is healthy for everyone.
Stress will always be there. I tell myself I will be okay and so will my kids. I make sure they know I love them and can always come to me.
Pick out the good things you have done so far. You have lost 50 pounds in four months. That is really great. Emotions are rough right after surgery. It is good you are seeing a therapist.
Sorry for the rambling but it is hard to be a parent.
I'm going through a similar stress filled situation right now, and for the last few months. My weight loss has stalled because I've returned to eating to ease me through the stress.
I decided to start seeing a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. She recommended the following book to me, which I'm waiting to receive:
Knowing in my head that food will not fix my stress isn't enough. Knowing that food will make my situation even worse isn't enough to stop me from eating.
I hope you and I both can get a handle on this because our relationships with food are a lifetime struggle. They don't go away. We have to find ways to deal with our emotions that don't involve food rewards. Good luck to you. I really wish you the best.
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Height: 5'-7" HW: 449 SW: 392 GW: 179 CW: 220
Kanicky, I'm so thankful you posted this. I, too, have been under stress on all fronts and so I'm on vacation right now de-stressing. I have been really good for 8 months but this is the first time I've given in on eating crap... I just had some French fries (about 6) but threw the rest away. At least I threw them away. I've been eating at the high end of my calorie limit all week (at least I'm still recording my food intake) but I'm just depressed that my drive and motivation are lagging. Medically, things are great but physically my body is a mess... Hanging skin and flab in a bathing suit. I guess the lesson is to stay dressed until PS. How could I be more embarrassed about my thinner body than my morbidly obese one?! Wow, little bit of a funk too...I'm with you Kanicky, I guess this is a test of our resolve and coping skills.
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Hi there! Well, i can be a "what not to do" ad! I emotionally ate my way up 35 pounds. I just let life get me down and went back to old habits of using food for comfort. Now I'm back on track and trying to lose it using a food/calorie tracker and a fitbit to track my exercise (which is walking). I don't know what the answer is, but I know the struggle! It's good that you are going to these boards to get advice. I find it helpful during challenging times. That's why I'm back on here. Time to get real. Good luck to you! I think therapy will help a lot too!