How do you deal with 'Skinny Shaming'?

Thank you all!  If these were people I saw with regularity I would have been honest up front.  But these are the ex hubby's family and they love to gossip.  Last big thing was when I got a new car and it went around the family circle and then I got an email from my ex asking why I still need child support.  Just trying to avoid the telephone game with people *****ally aren't there for me - just trying to stir trouble.  

I am one of those that is very private and I don't discuss my personal stuff nor do I ask others about theirs.  When I had a hysterectomy a year ago - I didn't tell anyone either so it is not weight thing just a privacy thing.  

Thank you for everything... 

By looking at your ticker and BMI listed on your profile page, I assume you are 5'7" tall, which is the same height as me. 157 is not too thin. I am 20 pounds lighter and I am not too thin. Your friends and family are used to seeing you at a higher weight. Some may be jealous, some may actually be concerned. Tell them your weight is between you and your doctor. Period.

The attention will fade when everyone gets used to seeing you at your goal weight. Fight like hell to stay at goal. If you regain, you give them something else to talk about.

People around us have a hard time with success because we have been seen and used as a verbal punching bag, if you will.   They can direct us,  "teach us", lord over us as if we know nothing and they know everything.  It's their power over us.   especially people like the ones you're describing.   When you succeed they lose power and it will make them hold onto it as tight as possible. 

What I like to do is turn it around on them.   I quickly say that I am working with my doctor on it all and we got it.   Then I'll ask them how they are doing with something they struggle with our point out that you can give them pointers on their diet to help them get to goal.  usually the uncomfortable feeling they get from that makes them realize they overstepped. 

Many people who lose a lot of weight hear the "You're too skinny" comment, even when we aren't even at a normal BMI yet.

Rapid weight loss seems to start at the top and by the time my ass was smaller my face looked like a famine victim.  Many look gaunt for a while before the fat redistributes and settles.

I did get a bit too low and while it was scary at the time I am glad I did because it gave me some bounce back room.  Many who listened to people and started eating more to keep from losing more weight say they regret it.

The worst thing that happens is you hear you are too skinny enough and you start to think it's time to fatten up with some cheeseburgers like everyone recommends.

Don't!  That opens the door for bad eating habits to return and is the reason that many who worry about being too thin in the second year complain about gaining too much in the third year and beyond.  

Stick to eating healthy and if your weight continues below a healthy level start by adding in about 100 calories at a time, preferably protein calories, until things level out.

This too shall pass.  I had people thinking I had cancer.  The same people later would tell me how good I looked after gaining some weight and I hadn't even gained anything, I just was filling out.  

I just got used to telling people that my doctor felt I was fine and thanked them for their concern.  

I used to have in my ticker for goal weight "When people stop asking if I was sick".

i deal with this a lot! At my heaviest I was 300 lbs. Now I am 136. I have had many people force their opinions on what is healthy for me. I have been VERY open about my surgery. A couple weeks ago I went to my DH family reunion where my former HS bestfriend was ALL too comfortable with announcing to everyone that I was TOO skinny and looked almost sick. Now, this is also the woman that for YEARS was smaller than me and would make sure almost daily that I knew it. At that time in my life I put up with the fat shaming. I waited until she was finished with her loudly voiced "concerns" and then just as loudly announced that I did not put my life on the line to stay fat and that she and anyone else was more than welcome to join me at the gym and to join me in living a healthier lifestyle and that I would be more than happy to help her get rid of the excess weight she was carrying. Then I proudly walked my size 8 butt away. Actually, my DH said I "strutted" away. Dang it felt good! But then later it donned on me that I was no better than her, but still it felt good. 

Generally I just tell people that I am at a healthy BMI, that I exercise regularly and enjoy eating "clean" foods and I welcome anyone and everyone to join me in this journey to a healthier life.  

I think most people who had WLS have a point where they look overly skinny... I look back at pictures and there is a point where I weighed a good 20-30 pounds more than I do now but my face looks sooooooo skinny.... as time passes your body will adjust and some areas that may look too skinny will fill in...

So keep going, keep feeling good... I would cut people short with the I appreciate your concern but I am under medical supervision and my surgeon says I am fine.