HELP, scared, disappointed, plain just freaking out!

auntmimi
on 4/21/15 5:11 am

I think at some point we all  have fears and concerns if "we screwed it up". Just move on with your head held high and follow the plans given to you. Good luck to you and I hope you can find the support you are needing. People react differently to hearing of others "tempting fate". I had to learn the difference between "head" hunger and "real" hunger myself. I bought small 1/2 cup size containers from Dollar General. I have to (still a year later) remember that my pouch can only hold that amount. Listen to your body. When I get close to "full" my nose will start to drip. My mind says "its ok, one more bite" but my body is screaming "STOP". Listen to your body! We are on lifelong journeys here, we will have ups and downs but whats important is we dont give up! 

 

    

    
Corrie33
on 4/21/15 7:53 am
RNY on 02/09/15

I'm at 10 weeks now and I remember feeling like it "didn't take" during the first 2 weeks.  Even during the fluids only portion... those little 1 oz medicine cups were not cuttin' it!  I can't say I messed up - I DID stick with the doctor's instructions, but I do remember telling friends early on that there was no way this worked.  HOWEVER... the 4 week point changed everything.  At 4-5 weeks the healing process also brings quite a bit of shrinking with it.  So, be patient... I bet you'll feel like I did... suddenly that 1 extra bite was enough to prove to me that it DID work!!! 

Hang in there... you'll see.  And good luck, sweetie.

GOAL REACHED! 170 lbs lost...

RNY: 2/9/15 (age 52), Ht-5'9" HW=304, SW=292, GW=155, LW=134, CW=147

Mo.1 -29lbs Mo.2 -18lbs Mo.3 -13lbs Mo.4 -11lbs Mo.5 - 14lbs Mo.6 - 10lbs Mo. 7 -11lbs Mo. 8 -9.4lbs

Kathyjs
on 4/21/15 10:05 am

You will never feel that 'full' sensation.You are just freaking out. Give your poor body time to heal. You know pork roast etc etc is not on your new lifestyle plan. Please love yourself enough to  feel you deserve this new life. I know for me pre op I had a very low self esteem. If you feel hunger, it's your body telling you it needs water. Take a deep breath. Sleep well and tomorrow tell yourself, l love myself, I deserve another chance. You can do this !!

brandycain
on 4/23/15 3:06 am

Oh Ty for the reply. I appreciate the support and am doing much better.  :)

-Brandy- 

Surgery April 7th 2015.

 

Scion
on 4/21/15 3:04 pm

I get it. You've been disappointed with weight loss attempts in the past and you were scared this wouldn't work either, so you tested yourself and pushed limits you shouldn't have. The harsher responses were from people genuinely scared for you, but now you know how important it is not to blow out your staples, and it sounds like you're on the right track talking with your doctor and nut. 

The most important thing you can do for yourself (besides following the instructions) is to just take things easy and slowly. Your body has just been through a major upheaval, and it will take time for things to feel the way they should. So just follow the rules and timeline re: water, protein, vitamins, etc. and trust that you're on your way to a better you. Here's wishing you all the best. 

brandycain
on 4/23/15 3:05 am

Exactly how I was feeling.  Thank you for your support.  I feel less alone. Ty Ty Ty. 

-Brandy- 

Surgery April 7th 2015.

 

(deactivated member)
on 4/22/15 3:01 am

(((())))) I get it Brandy I really do - I too was addicted food and felt really frightened when I suddenly had to stop "ingesting " to cover my feelings and pain.  We all go through an excess food withdrawal after surgery and it can be harsh .  I cried lot .. had terrible emotional moodswings and lived on here .  Walking fifteen minutes every hour helped me ( as my doctor prescribed ) .. getting on here for hours .. going outside ( gently ) when I could ... going to OA meetings online ( you can find them every three hours starting at 6 AM) .You'll get through this Grrrlfriend !  Big hugs 

brandycain
on 4/23/15 3:04 am

Ty so much for the kind words and support.. I needed too hear that.

-Brandy- 

Surgery April 7th 2015.

 

Eggface
on 4/23/15 5:38 am - Sunny Southern, CA

This post was a few days ago and it looks like you got a lot of advice... I'll just say this... most of us were afraid that it wouldn't work... almost every time the scale slowed or stopped (and it will many many times as you are losing) that doubt, that little voice went "uh oh" 

It will work... (rare mechanical failures can happen, but you'd want to play the lottery and not go out in rainstorms kind of rare if that is you) for a time. Our surgery is a helping hand only... the rapid weight loss, the phasing in of foods, getting healthier so daily movement is easier, allows you time to make life changes that you can live with forever. One day it'll be less about what the Dr's did to your insides and more about what you are doing every day... so concentrate on that stuff. The scale goes both ways still so use this gift of time and assistance from the surgery to make lifelong changes.

Find a support group (OH has a list, Wyoming is hard but maybe some online groups, call your hospitals and see if they have online groups, any telemedicine resources, call this one and ask if the leader knows of others: http://www.obesityaction.org/advocacy/support-groups/wyoming -support-groups build your support network, don't stop until you feel like you have resources to turn to.

Maybe as you get further out you could create one with fellow WLSers in your area and ask people to come talk to you (dr's dietiticians, therapists, veteran post-ops, etc.) there's a great group in the Dallas area that does this. 

Stay involved... OH has events see the tab up top, OAC has a great one! www.ywmconvention.com 

and if at any point you don't understand or have questions ask your medical team... its ok to say "I need help, I thought I had this but I don't."

Best to you.

~Michelle "Shelly"

Congrats on axing your diabetes meds and oxygen.

Weight Loss Surgery Friendly Recipes & Rambling
www.theworldaccordingtoeggface.com

valwitt23
on 4/23/15 12:36 pm - Birmingham, AL
RNY on 04/10/15

Stop eating solids. 11 days out from surgery your insides have not healed. Eating too so can cause problems down the line. I'm 13 days out of surgery. I started eating solids too soon also to stay full longer. I'm able to eat more than I thought I would. I'm attending a support group sponsored by my surgeon's office. They explained how the connection that was made to connect our intestine can heal too tight and make eating difficult later or possibly cause a leak. I am eating pureed chicken, fish, and tuna. It is very filling and I'm meeting my protein goals.

 

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