HELP, scared, disappointed, plain just freaking out!
on 4/20/15 2:03 am
You are right. There aren't a lot of options in Wyoming. I was thinking, is there a hospital near you. Usually there is some kind of nutritional support group or you can find a dietician that can work with you between visits.
"The first thing I do in the morning is brush my teeth and sharpen my tongue." --- Dorothy Parker
"You may not like what I say or how I say it, but it may be just exactly what you need to hear." ---Kathryn White
How is it not judgement when in told I'm stupid and that I "pack in" the food? I was never rude to anyone and asked for honest help. I didn't say I thought this was a "tot lot" and Yes I am an adult. Saying I didn't commit and didn't read everything I was given?
I have worked so hard with this process every step of the way. I'm human and not perfect, and I make mistakes. obviously I wouldn't have needed surgery if I didn't. I've learned my lesson here. I have also learned not to be so honest here. I'm sorry I posted everything I did. I hope it didn't scare others away from looking for support. if anyone can related with me, they certainly won't feel safe to voice it Here. Please email me if you can relate to not being perfect and have any other advise.
Thank you for the kind honest replies that didn't make me feel like a failure. Your advise has really helped and I appreciate the support. I'll quietly read posts.
Many of the replies you received are from veterans on this site. They are frightened that you hurt yourself. They're not judging you. When I read your post i was astounded at what you ate and I am one of the least judgmental people around. People are concerned that you hurt yourself. You should be too.
I'm at 10 weeks now and I remember feeling like it "didn't take" during the first 2 weeks. Even during the fluids only portion... those little 1 oz medicine cups were not cuttin' it! I can't say I messed up - I DID stick with the doctor's instructions, but I do remember telling friends early on that there was no way this worked. HOWEVER... the 4 week point changed everything. At 4-5 weeks the healing process also brings quite a bit of shrinking with it. So, be patient... I bet you'll feel like I did... suddenly that 1 extra bite was enough to prove to me that it DID work!!!
Hang in there... you'll see. And good luck, sweetie.
GOAL REACHED! 170 lbs lost...
RNY: 2/9/15 (age 52), Ht-5'9" HW=304, SW=292, GW=155, LW=134, CW=147
Mo.1 -29lbs Mo.2 -18lbs Mo.3 -13lbs Mo.4 -11lbs Mo.5 - 14lbs Mo.6 - 10lbs Mo. 7 -11lbs Mo. 8 -9.4lbs
on 4/19/15 11:32 am
Trust me they do care. It may seem harsh but it is sound advice. When I had my surgery I felt almost normal. I did measure but I didn't fell the feeling of being full. I questioned him to see if he actually did something in there.
I am sure you have told people you had the surgery and had them roll their eyes or tell you horror stories of people they know who had the surgery. We all want everyone to do well. Even though people have been honest with you. Sometimes the truth does hurt.
I don't think they think you are stupid just made some bad choices. Don't give up on this forum there are so many people here that want to help.
There is a lot of information on this site.
Hi, I don't see any post that calls you stupid...maybe it was deleted?! Anyway I posted a reply on here once and it came across the wrong way and made the person mad. I apologized for my wording it wrong that I was posting late at night when I'm not thinking straight. The person didn't acknowledge me. So be it. I'm sure the people here are trying to support you but in their forcefulness of their convictions it has come across as mean to you. I assure you that everyone wants what's best for you and to help you through this difficult time. I am only four months out and it has been difficult. It is a struggle most days but it is getting easier. Look at all you've accomplished so far with the oxygen and diabetes meds. We can do this and someday we will be the...I forgot the word they use....veterans or old timers...but that will be us!!
HW: 240 SW: 224 Goal: 130
You're not alone. I'm only 6 days out and still struggling with getting liquids in. The responses were out of concern. I was concerned and surprised you could tolerate the food you ate. I feel full all the time from bloating, surgery swelling and reflux. It makes it hard to get the liquids in. My first post-op appointment is Wednesday and my first question is when does all that get better. I had RNY because I have GERD which is suppose to help but so far it feels just like before.
Don't hold back your posts. I truly believe in order for me to reach my goal and be successful I need to be truthful and accountable to myself and when I post. I may not want to hear the truth but I need to hear the truth and I hope everyone will be truthful when I don't follow my program. As was said earlier, the reactions you received were out of concern but also truth and accountability. We all have lapses and I'm pretty sure I will have mine in the future. But here is the thing, I've gone through too much to get to this point to not give 100% to my surgeons work and my program. I'm sure you and many feel the same. Don't give up you are not alone.
Carpe Diem!
Height: 5'5" HW: 237 SW: 237 CW:138 GW: 134 M1: -31 M2: -14 M3:-12 M4: -10 M5: -10 M6: -5 M7: -4 M8: -5 M9: -5 M10: -2 M11: 0 M12: -1
