Congratulations on the wedding.  And I would keep the Country between you. I just can't understand people like her.

It seems to be a good strategy.

And thanks!

It is sad that anyone on the planet can be a mother. My best friends mom is this way. Just keep remembering that you love yourself and that is enough. Keep your chin up and congratualtions on the nuptials!

:)

Oh my goodness -- your mother sounds like one of the most unhappy and hateful people in the world!  You are correct that none of her comments have anything to do with you -- it's all about her own unhappiness and self-hatred.  She's just chosen you as the whipping boy/girl.  

But at this stage of the game, you shouldn't be allowing her to do it anymore.  You are a strong, independent (and BEAUTIFUL!) woman.  You need to set boundaries with your mom and let her know under no cir****tances is that kind of verbal abuse going to be tolerated any longer.  She can either shut up...or get out.  

I think being emotionally removed from her (as well as physically) is a very smart self-preservation technique!  

Have a wonderful Christmas and a glorious wedding! 

:)

Thank you.

And the physical/emotional removal being "the smartest thing I could do" was said by a PASTOR who knows both of us.

I would never have expected a pastor to say something like that...but he surprised me!

I am so sorry that your mom said that to you.  She sounds jealous of you.  You are certainly NOT a "hatchet face" -- it's ridiculous.  

Thank you

There's nothing that says you can't tell your Mom to STFU and mind her own business.  Then tell her if she can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

Enjoy your family get-together!

Why did you even invite her?  Some people just aren't worth the energy, regardless of shared DNA.