I know they are :( I am constantly telling them to stop trying to be the other... The little sister is a cheerleader/gymnast and she doesn't rub it in, but I can see that I bothers the older sister... Not sure that there is anything I can do.  We did just find out that older sister has hypothyroidism so hopefully she can get her weight under control and start to get more active and feel better about herself ;-) 

Are your mother and mine related perhaps? The best day in my life was when I married my husband Chuck aand gained a mother in law without the head games. Hopefully you'll be blessed that way too! My sister was always the favored child even though she was lazy and a procrastinator. She was thin and I was always overweight even as a child due to the emotional eating I did to make up for never feeling understood. I had a lot of responsibility as a young teen making meals and taking care of my younger sister because my mother was a teacher and single parent in a day when that was a rarity. I never felt appreciated though. Now though the favorite sister is obese,has 2 ex husbands and can barely make ends meet, and I am thin and happily married to a wonderful man for nearly 25 years and have two sons with college degrees. My mother is gone now,and though I do miss her,I don't miss the holiday gatherings when I would stuff myself so as to not say something I would regret. Just tune her out and enjoy these few days leading up to your beautiful wedding. Congratulations!

Thank you for understanding. There are so many here on this thread that "get it."

Thank you.

That sucks.  So sorry happy times are being marred by negative people.  

Next time she asks if people call you hatchet face....just say this "No, mom, no one's called me that...but ever since I got this thin, people tell me I look just like you."  Maybe that will shut her up ;)

Actually they DO tell me that I look just like her when she "was younger."

Maybe...it is a self-loathing kind of a thing...

I think I sat next to your mom on a plane recently. You're doing really well to not take that stuff in and live your life the way you want to. That's all her stuff, that she has to suffer with. Good on you. 

That is so horrible!  It sounds like you have your life together and are doing what YOU want to do (with the surgery, wedding, career, etc.), and she cannot accept it.  I bet if you won the Nobel Prize will dating Brad Pitt she'd say that you "act too stuck up now" and have "no time for her."

It seems like some parents are hell-bent on damaging their children.  My mom's dad would encourage her to stuff herself, then make her weigh, so he could make fun of how much she weighed.  It's no surprise that she has struggled with food her entire life.

Stay strong, and I hope you have a wonderful wedding!

Wow. In any other time..that is child abuse.

Also-my mom does the same thing with "This is supper" when you are not eating "enough" at supper to her liking.

Then when I would gain, I was F.A.T. (yep..she woudl spell it)

My dear you are faaaaar from a "hatchet  face". you are beautiful!!!! Who says those things.... I am so sorry you had to listen to that garbage. On the bright side...... CONGRATS on YOUR marriage Hope you have a great Christmas!  

Thank you