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Thank you, Lora for the words of wisdom and advice. Unlike the last person who basically attacked me for my mistake. I'm not going to let that jerk get to me though. No one's perfect. I made a mistake. I'm moving on. Again, thanks for your wonderful words of advice!

I think the problem with feeling attacked is this method of communication is not as clear as face to face and in real life, some people are more direct, others are more sensitive, but I still think we can learn from everyone's feedback. 

Not that you need it, but to me, "couch time" is NOT a criticism. It is the best thing I personally have done for myself around my eating. My therapist was super supportive and what I learned was how to make myself feel good, how to find pleasure without eating food. It was very empowering to learn other ways to calm myself, etc. as I used food for dealing with all my feelings for many years. 

We all have different issues and reasons for our obesity and knowledge is always power. Same with the guy who mentioned the health aspect of eating solids after 3 weeks. I did it too occasionally but my nurse did tell me that my body is still really healing inside at that point and that is why I need to stick with the program. I could cause myself to have a serious problem, requiring more surgery, etc and that did keep me on track just thinking about that. I know it gets so boring on mushies! And it seems to last forever, but it does end. 

Sometimes you may feel attacked but if that person was in person, you could see by their body language and tone of voice that they are really trying to help. I hope you understand what I am trying to say here. It helps to just take what fits and leave the rest and not let it bother you when you disagree. We are all different but share this same journey. Good luck!!! Tracy

Well said! I don't think the other poster meant to attack. The problem with email, text messaging, and message boards is that you can't hear tone of voice or read facial expressions.

Well said.  People should chill a bit. I work in a corporate world and we live in emails. I cannot begin to tell you how many times emails are misinterpreted and these are amongst people who know each other. The written word is so easy to misinterpret when there is no face, tone, body language to go with it. 

Clearly mistakes happen. - we are human after all. But the first responder is right in that to even attempt it 3.5 weeks out from surgery is scary.    I am 19 weeks out from surgery and just the other day I put myself in bed with pain because I didn't chew slow enough a piece of toast.   So I probably would have put myself in the hospital trying pizza at 3.5 weeks out. 

Seriously stick to the plan to avoid a whole potential world of pain, issues or even defeating the whole point of surgery. So tomorrow is indeed another day so back to plan.     And please read people's response's with the assumption that people have the best of intentions.  It is an assumption that will serve you well in life and makes for a whole lot less stress in life 

First of all, I don't think that person attacked you, but they never called you a name. Referring to them as a jerk does not reflect well on you. Not at all!

I chewed on them for you.  Like I said, just try to find healthy alternatives to replace the craving.  Maybe some pizza sauce on eggplant with a little cheese melted and some lean meat.  I haven't had surgery yet, but I know that I will have to fight craving like you and will have to try to find healthy choices to satisfy myself.  You hang in there you are going to do great.  Steve, Clyde NC

Your pouch is still healing and you really shouldn't put it into a stress situation this early.  Didn't your surgeon explain the healing process to you?  When you understand it you won't be tempted to eat what you aren't ready for.  Do a little research on line.

I don't think anyone else was being a jerk, or judging you. I think they were concerned, and trying to help. You just didn't want to hear what they had to say.

No one is judging you.  They wouldn't respond if they, including myself, didn't want to help you.  If you keep calling people "jerk" and using foul notations, "WTF" no one will care enough to reply.