Cheated
What's scary to me is that you're already jeopardizing the success of your surgery, and your health, by doing something this self- sabotaging at less than a month out.
I would very strongly suggest that you consider having some face time (or couch time) with a good therapist in an attempt to get to the bottom of why you would have gone through what you have to get this surgery, only to turn around and sabotage the results of it...
Seriously, I really am wishing you much success.
I second that. Ignore the haters. You screwed up. Accept it and get back on track. I think you need to ask yourself why you reached for that piece of pizza 3 weeks out though. Was it habit? Maybe therapy isnt a bad idea so you dont sabotage everything you have been through. Im 5 days out. Im dying for real food. Because Im so head hungry Im dreaming of eating crap food I dont even eat. I cant say when Im advanced that I wouldnt take a bite of pizza but for me it would be because I just want to chew something! Best of luck and keep us posted. I find most of the people on this board really do care. Not everybody can be nice and I just ignore those self righteous people.
Wow, I am shocked that you would consider what I suggested to be judging and lacking support because that was nowhere near my intent.
I am simply one of those people who tell it like I see it. I am not a mollycoddler, but rather try to look at the big picture and the underlying cause of the act , and not the mere act itself.
When I say anything, it's not done with malice or any other dark intent, but rather to get the individual to think beyond the mere act of, as in your case, eating the pizza to what would actually compel them to eat the pizza this early in their weight loss journey.
You are the one who said you "cheated," which brings me to the conclusion that you knew you were doing something you should not have, but did it anyway. So, my thoughts immediately went to the why? Why would an individual be compelled to an act that might ultimately sabotage their goal if continued? And, the fact that it was done so early in the weight loss process really sent up a red flag for me.
Do you have the answer for why you would cheat yourself? I know I don't; therefore, I did what I thought was in your best interest, and that was to suggest you consider some counseling to get to the core root of the why...
Whether you stuff your face with pizza day in and day out has absolutely no impact upon my life, but I thought you were looking for actual help and not platitudes with regard to how "tomorrow is another day, begin again" type of help.
When you spent all those years dieting, how did "tomorrow is another day, I can begin again work for you"? I'm thinking it didn't, or you would not have turned to surgery.
If my suggestion that you take a deeper look for the root cause of your "slip" makes me a bad guy, then I hope your life is filled with bad guys like me because what was in your, bottom-line, best interest was my, bottom-line, intent.
Again, I really am wishing you much success because life without the weight is such a joyful place to be...
There you go again. You are being judgmental. She ate a 1/2 slice of pizza. Maybe we could suggest that next time she could put a small amount of pizza sauce on some lean meat with some vegetables. Recommend a healthier alternative instead of beating the poor woman up. I'm sure after my surgery I will have urges too. I hope that I can find support and find healthy alternatives to eat. She will succeed and so will I!
Tell you what, start your weight loss journey eating pizza at three and half weeks post-op and then get back to me in five years and tell me all about how successful you've been. You may succeed, but then again, chances are not optimally in your favor.
It's not that she ate a half slice of pizza, but why did she eat it? What compelled her to "cheat" (her words not mine) is what I felt needed to be examined, not the dam eating of the pizza itself. If, at less than a month out from surgery, she is going against the dietary guidelines that were apparently given to her, why did she and what might be next?
Maybe nothing, but then again, if there is a more serious underlying emotional issue going on that is not being addressed, this "cheating" may be the first sign, and it was my desire to have her examine that possibility for her own sake, not mine.
Anyhow, I am not going to argue this any longer. It is quite apparent that some folks just are not going to get it, which is why some succeed with this surgery while others do not.
And really dude, talk about being judgmental, are you not the pot calling the kettle black here???
I get DebsGiz's point, however I don't think she was as articulate as she thought she was. A simple, "Hey sorry you are struggling with urges, what may be helpful is to see a therapist so that you can get help with understanding what motivates your food choices. This is a never ending battle as most of us have struggles with over eating."
I see a therapist twice a month and it makes making choices easier. I'm at 1 month post op July 18 and I'm struggling to eat more than grapefruit. Some may say... "DON'T STARVE YOURSELF! WHERE IS THE PROTEIN?" I'm doing the best I can is all I can say. However it does sound like the original poster only wanted support.
If we want to help we have to lead with kindness.
