feeling very depressed

My answer might upset you, NEVER, eating the things you did got you where you are now.  The new normal is never eating that way ever again, if and when you let your guard down regain happens easily.  Life as you knew it is over. Thankfully.

Fellow newbie here. We made the right decision, to save our lives. The way I see it is, some people can eat food for pleasure but I'm not one of them. Food is not for me. Food is for minimal sustenance only. You (and I) are grieving the loss of a dependable comfort. I'm sad, too. I am sick of blended goo and liquids. Sick already of vitamins that rust in the bottle. Sick of aching in my gut. MIssing my comfort foods. Afraid to eat just about anything. Happy all these other people are successful and wise, but feeling lonely. My family pigs out continuously. Friends bring lunch over and eat it in front of me. Watching them chew is disgusting. But this is price we pay for being overweight. Too late for regret, time to be brave and put one foot in front of the other. Personally, I'm going swimming tomorrow for the first time post op in my new smaller size swim suit. So, from another newbie, be brave; a new normal will develop and we will feel better soon. (off to drink my protein goo while the rest eat bbq steak now) :->

You may be able to eat whatever you want in moderation when you get the hang of maintenance, or maybe not. You have to figure out what works for you. I make healthy choices about 90% of the time and 10% of the time, I eat whatever I want, like today. For other people, that does not work. I recommend that you don't test the waters until you are at goal and you have your healthy habits ingrained into your brain. Right now you can really eat anything and lose weight. You may lose slower, but you will still lose. The surgery is doing all the work. Make the most of this time and embrace it. It does get easier for most of us.

Thanks everyone for your responses! I don't want to go back to my old eating habits, I just want to be able to sit down at a table with my friends and family and be able to eat what they're eating (with exceptions and in moderation of course). It's the social aspect of eating "normal " food that I miss the most. I know... in time things will get better! Thanks again!

I had surgery last wed and I feel depressed and scared too. Also a bit snappy. I'm attributing to eating puréed foods . I also disappointed that I had to go to such drastic measures. However, in my heart I feel and have felt prior to surgery that I was doing the right thing. Just today I'm having left upper abdominal pain with a possible bulge. I'm scared I don't want surgery again my experience was awful in the hospital. I have three little children and a full life ahead of me. I worried what the future holds.

I completely understand how you feel but you must stay determine not to go back to your old habits. Find other things to substitute for foods. For example, I'm 5 weeks out and I miss pizza. So what I did was go get a cheap pizza Tostiono (red/white box) cost $1.19 from food lion. It has 3gm of sugar and 25 carbs (which is coming from the crust) and it's the Triple Meat one. I take the toppings off and eat it and just a little of the crust because it's so easy to chew since it's thin crust. Of course I can't eat the entire thing but it satisfy me. Also, instead of eating chips, I get pork rinds that's packed in protein as well. It's things out there you can eat but you have to make sure NOT to go over 10gm of sugar and 20gm of carbs. Sure I miss my Snickers bar but I'm so excited about this 32 pounds I have lost so far. I also recommend you go back to counseling if you need it. Good Luck!!

Oh my gosh, I am totally feeling the same I think you and I are a day apart surgery wise. We have been camping with friends since Wed and all the stuff that is here to eat is making me so pissed off that I can't have it! I am trying to stay upbeat and happy but seriously?! I have cheated and eaten some things and then am so pissed that I ate these things!!! So far nothing has made me dump, I kinda wi**** had; but I have had things my pouch did not like at all and have had severe diarrhea. I then I think ok that didn't stay I'm good with those calories. On a good note I have walked the dogs three times a day for 20 to 30 minutes at a time so I am hoping I haven't gained any weight. I think I need to go to counseling and see why I am still wanting to cheat etc.

My dietician talked to me about mourning food after WLS, but I never did.  I was so happy to have shed the weight.  My food choice before surgery was sweets.  I loved cookies.  Since surgery, sugar makes me very sick so that deters me from eating them.  I buy or make sugar free sweets and I'm happy with them.

There are a lot of foods I can't eat.... burger/hot dog buns, cabbage, most pasta; popcorn was a favorite but it just doesn't taste the same now.  Many foods I remembered as tasting so good no longer are tasty.

Think about all the things you will be able to do as a healthy person.  Try to make healthy versions of some of those foods you're missing. 

Don't be angry with yourself.  You've come a long way having the surgery.

 

 

Over the next few weeks you will be creating your new normal.  You seem to be in a lot of conflict about food and what it means to you.   Counseling would be a good way for you to go.  

As a very young child I was urged to eat everything on my plate because children in Europe were starving.  Later I was told not to waste food so I should eat everything on my plate.  It has taken me 70 years to stop eating when I am full.  It is the best lesson I have ever learned.  It is not common sense to connect your eating habits with the people around  you.  Forgive yourself, start putting positive thoughts together and look at the future you are creating.  Get some books on nutrition and learn what is the good food to stock up on.  Learn why the sugars, carbs, pasta, etc. are hurting your body and it will be easier to accept your new normal.  You can't have everything that you presently want so you have to take charge.  That is your responsibility alone.