feeling very depressed

My emotions are all over the board right now and I don't know how to deal with it. I'm depressed because I can't eat the same foods everyone around me is eating. Most of all I'm depressed and angry with myself for getting this overweight, requiring such drastic measures to get healthy again. When will be "normal" again???

When did you have your surgery?  I felt the same exact way until I lost about 30 pounds.  When I started to notice my clothes didn't fit anymore and my face had really changed.  I still have days when I'm depressed and mourning the food though.  I think that's natural.

I have been where you are.  I remember because I am on a walker now, how bad I cursed myself for letting myself get to the point  where I ruined my hips and had to have frigging surgery.  Oh, how I beat the crap out of myself for awhile.  I am 14 months out now, many emotions had to run their course.  Your hormones are dumping right now from the surgery which makes you all over the place.  I was cleared for five feet distance to stay away from the "Dragon Lady" as I was known for. My poor husband.  I bet he wished he had an apartment for that part of time I was that way.  Hell, I couldn't stand myself, how could ANY one stand being around me???

I can't tell you how long you will feel this way.  Just know that in time this shall pass.  I know it's real easy to say that now, but trust in us, we have been there. If you do find that it continues for a long period of time, hook up with your Primary Care doctor tell him/her what's going on.  Meds may be needed or counseling to help you.  But for now, know you can come to us anytime during this time period of your life.  I have lost 102 pounds, I can eat now, not alot and have learned to make good choices.  I will be having steak and all the goodies today but only in very small amounts.  I am not denied, and someday you will be where we all get to.  I still will get surgery on my hips, have not much more to lose, maybe 30 at the most. I look great feel great and we took a limo into L.A. to see Fleetwood Mac last night so what does that tell you about how far I have come??  Walker and all.

Anyway, take care of yourself and post anytime.  Ever want to talk privately, you can always message me.  Hang tuff.  You made it through the surgery and now onto the next step which isn't always pleasant.   I am 60 so hells bells, you can do it girl!!!!!   Take care,  Jane 

Fleetwood Mac, Jane!! I bet that was awesome!! Walker and all haha.

nicky, we had the greatest time!!!!  They sounded awesome, even after all these years.  They were at the Staples Center in L.A. and they treat you great there!!!  Believe it or not nicky, we went and saw Lady Gaga there back in January or February and thank goodness cause right after that she injured her hip and had to cancel concerts and have surgery. 

We always try to see all types of people and groups and forms of music.  So ya, boy, I looked like a hottie with my hot pink aluminum walker that has zebra striped padded handles and a zebra print velcro bag on the side.  Hey, if I have to use one, I want to be stylish right???  No reason to let certain things stop anyone.  Take care!!

That's awesome you went and saw Lady Gaga too! She has an amazing voice. I love your positive attitude!!! And your style haha. 

I understand how you feel. I'm only 9 days out but I have had a lot of "why did I do this to myself in the first place" thoughts. In fact, that's the first thing I remember saying when I was waking up from surgery was telling my husband I wish I had been able to do this without surgery. I'm trying to be gentle with myself right now though. You should too. What's done is done and right now the best thing I can do is look forward to all the things this will open my life up to. And to me...that has to be better than any food doesn't it? Hugs for you! Hang in there!

You are right, nicky, go easy on yourself.  Remember, we all were experts on dieting.  I am serious.  We tried everything throughout the years to lose weight, right??  Everything.  So yes, for you this too shall pass and go easy on yourself even though it seems like it's never going to get better.  Thank you for all the support you do give on here as a newbie.  That's really important, especially to connect with people as yourself that are just out of surgery.  We need to know we are not alone.   Jane

Well thank you, that means a lot. I've been reading here since December and have always loved your posts. No matter what, you always seem to tell it like it is but remain positive too and I think that's so important. Thank you!

Hahahaha, well yes there are times I am called everything in the book on the other side of computers!  Sometimes I do get on the band wagon but that is just me.  I want us all to succeed, because as My Lady Heidi once posted, you risk yourself dying on the table to have this surgery and you turn around and gain most of it back??? That has always stuck with me  Yes, we risked dying that day and I don't want any newbies to freak out that are pre-op but understand this now is on us and there is no going back.  We have to be accountable for whatever we put in our mouths.  For those out there that never say never again, it will be easy to say in the very beginning, but as time moves on and you get into the maintaining part of life, better look at the vets on here and see how after years and years they can tell you.  They have seen it all on OH and they have to be watchful always.  

Talk with you all later. Time for company and dinner and watching fireworks!!!!   Jane