Fear

My surgery is on Monday May 13 and I don't know if I haven't had a chance for it to hit with having to control my pre-op diet or if I'm just not scared.  I feel anxious, excited, a little nervous... but not scared.

My husband is scared.  I caught him staring at me today with a sad smile on his face and he admitted that he's scared.  He's afraid of that first time I realize I can't have a favorite food or what if this doesn't fix the infertility and it devastates me.  I don't know how to comfort him because those are good reasons to be scared.  Or maybe him being scared is making me be the strong one.

 

Who was more scared, you or your loved one(s)?

Perhaps you are not scared because you are confident in your decision that WLS is your best option for pursuing your dreams of a baby and a healthy lifestyle.  Try to just stay the course and not let your husband's nerves affect you.  In the meantime, good luck on Monday! 

My hubby is scared for me too. Hes seen me go through so much and soooo many failed diets hes afraid it will happen again. I will start freaking out tomorrow!!

You sound just like me. My husband was scared for the same reasons. I was not scared at all, I was mostly anxious to get started and excited.

I did not get scared once.

I was never scared except that my surgery might be cancelled because I had a cold.  If my bf was scared he never said so, we knew the odds were good I wouldn't die and that it would be a million times worse staying diabetic, I saw the outcome of that when my mom died at 61.  I was excited, couldn't wait to start my new life.  It was totally worth it.  

My husband was also more scared than I was.  There is nothing we can say or do that will take away those worries accept time and going through the process.  My husband and I read books, went to classes, did everything we could to prepare for what was coming and do everything "right."  You can prepare for the physical stuff, you can make sure to follow your doctors instructions and that will minimize the risk, but honestly the real trials are the emotional ones like you mentioned.   The best thing you can do is just try to talk through it when something comes up.  I tried my best to talk about what I was feeling when I had my first break down because I just wanted it to be easy again to go and get whatever I wanted to eat. My husband felt helpless but the more we talked about it and the more time that passed, we realized the emotional trials will come but they would not break me.  They are just pauses on the journey.