Need the non-single-digit-clothing-size folks to make themselves known

this girl! i'm a 12/14 and usually happy with my size ****il i look at the deflated skin tire around my stomach, but just another month and a half until that's gone). while i'm not counting on it because i know a good amount of people don't lose any sizes when they have their tt, i'm hoping just to go down 1 or 2. i always wanted to be a size 8. that just seems right to me.

I am obviously nowhere near done but I will tell you this-back in my "skinny days" (at 122 pounds), I wore a size 10. It's just how I'm built.

Pam :)

Well I am a single digit but never hit my goal:( I got close then went the other way.  I am now 15lbs away from a goal that I may never reach.  I feel like a failure because I have seen so many others get to goal and I don't know why I never did.  I work out all the time, watch my calories, track everything.  It is so frustrating and hard not to be jealous of others.  All I can say is I still look better than I ever have and maybe I'm just not meant to be super skinny??  You lost almost 200lbs, that is a huge success!!  You should feel so proud of what you accomplished and have kept off!  I guess my point is we all have our own struggles regardless of our size, when is good enough ever good enough??  I am between a 4 and 6 and still am disappointed that I didn't reach some goal I had in my head.

It sounds like perhaps your original goal wasn't realistic...?  I know a number of people who picked a weight just because it "sounded good" or just because it was below the midpoint of the BS BMI chart for their height (and then they are critical of themselves just because they didn't get to a weight that wasn't realistic in the first place).   I cannot imagine that you wear a size 4 or 6 and still have excess weight...  

Lora 

I am in the same boat as you. I have lost about 185lbs at this point and still where a 10-12 skirt, do not know about pant sizes cause I don't wear them, but I feel like I failed cause I cant get out of the double digits. I went from a 28/30 1 1/2 yrs ago to the 10-12 now. I think its all just in how our bodys are built. I see people that weigh more than me and wear smaller sizes then me. IDK

Yeah, I also have people who are almost identical on height and weight but wear smaller sizes... so it DOES have to do with body type and where you carry your weight... and even though I know that intellectually, it is hard to accept it emotionally.  I even knew going into surgery that I was still going to have big boobs and muscular thighs (I already had both in Jr High before I started to gain weight), but a part of me still wanted (still wants) to be a size 8.  I also started as a size 28 (the jeans I was wearing were a size 30... ugh), so starting so big and now wearing 10s normally IS a huge accomplishment.  Some days it just really gets me down, though.

Lora

Lora,

I am a size 6 with the ugly hanging thigh skin, if I didn't find it so utterly repulsive I would post a pic to cheer you up.  Believe me its not the number on the size of your clothes that makes you feel good.  I would rather be a ten with a normal body then a ****** up six.  My bf's mom is a zero, his aunt a 2, I look huge compared to them, and they are ten years+ older and no hanging skin.  I try to make the best of what I have without envying others even though I feel fat sometimes like I did when I was MO.  You look great and should be proud of yourself.

My size 8 Levi's are loose, but I tried on some clothes at LL Bean the other day, and the 10s were too small. So I guess I'm a 12 at LL Bean. (I ran out of time and energy before I tried the 12s on, but I'll be going back soon. I really need clothes.)

I'm done losing. I'm at my surgeon's goal weight for my height, I can wear my daughters' clothes, and I have no need to be a 6 or even an 8.

 

I only have one pair of pants from LL Bean and they are 12s.  The waist in the 10s was too tight.  My one pair of Eddie Bauer pants are 10s, though.

I thought I had conquered this nagging little voice about the size 8 nonsense, but apparently it was only hiding or resting.

Lora

Me, me! I wear a 14 most days and sometimes a generously cut 12. I am broad through the hip and short to boot. Lol
I completely understand feeling discouraged. Try to cut yourself some slack. You have lost, and more importantly maintained, 190 pounds. That isn't small potatoes. That is 190 pounds you kicked in the keister. I do not know a single woman who doesn't havr at least one body part she hates, which id a shame.
You are a fabulous, awesome person. Don't let this pants situation blind you to your own value.