Single post-op ladies: Would you date an obese man?

My husband is an adorable bean-pole:

...but I don't think I ever really had a "type." I dated both men and women before him and they were all pretty different. My previous girlfriend was chubby, and the previous boyfriend was short, stocky, and olive skinned. I did go on a few dates with a linebacker-sized dude and he was wonderful. If I were single, I'd probably date someone obese if we got along well. When it clicks, it clicks.

I am single, but not looking. And I'm not looking because I don't want to have to get involved in the whole sex mess. With sex and its attendant complications and heartaches out of the picture, a fat man would be/ could be delightful & loveable. 

If, and it's a wild, alternate universe if, there are men who want a committed relationship w/out sex, I'm interested. My last romantic encounter was when I was young and thin (-nish), and my men were gorgeous, young, & trim. Cuddling with a grownup man with some flesh on him sounds yummy!

SMO? Sure. I'm all about the luv at this point. I don't want to lose somebody I love to a heart attack or diabetes, though.

And if my partner wanted me to be one of his health coaches (I'm not your best choice for a health coach, honey!) I'd do my best. It would actually help us both.

Well, here's my burning question: Do "old" men still want sex?

How "old" are you? To me sex is a wonderful thing. It surprises me a little, I haven't met anyone who doesn't enjoy sex. 

To each his own.

Lots of people don't like sex. Some hate it, some fear it, some don't want the bother, some consider it overrated and overhyped, some have had enough, and some just don't like it. 

Some people don't like cake. I don't understand that. 

Some people don't like exercise. I do understand that!

 Well said.

I agree that sex is a wonderful thing, but sadly, I know a lot of women who can and do live without it. I just don't get it. Maybe they have never had great sex with the right person.

Some days I wish I had that lack of desire. Alas...for a time I was quite convinced sex was my transfer addiction. Overall I seek treatment for my addictive personality so I have brought all addictive behaviors under that treatment but it's sort of hard in that there is an actual hormonal biophysical drive behind it for me (proven by medical tests - I got lotsa hormones!). 

But the whole thing is, like you described it, a bunch of mess!

I like this post it's honest and interesting.

I'm happily married. My husband is average/normal size with a 15 pound middle age belly. He married me and loved me when I was very obese. 

I've never dated large men. It's not been a conscious decision.

I do know that I am not attracted to men who have what I call a women's body shape...like if a man has a big butt or thighs. I also am not attracted to an all 'big beer belly'.

I also like a man to dress nicely. I don't care about labels. I don't like track pants or baseball caps. A non ratty well fitting pair of jeans is fine for me.  

I have to say with the guys I've dated including my husband, there was no immediate attraction there. The attraction developed with intellect and their personality.

If I were single, I can say I would prefer to date someone  who is concerned  about health. Someone who, like me, is actively trying to make healthier food choices.

short answer: it wouldn't be the deal breaker, but i'm usually not physically attracted to bigger men. i wasn't when i was obese either. not every guy i've dated has been slim, but none have been obese.

...Doesn't seem to be a lot of attraction to obese men.

Food for thought: If a man said he wouldn't date an obese woman, I think he would be thought of as a jerk or a pig.

Are we not attracted to obese men because of biology I wonder? I know with animals the strongest, fittest males are the most sought after for reproductive purposes.