For those who have lost most of their excess weight

I have a hard time recognizing the person staring back at me in the mirror.  I am now the smallest I've ever been as an adult, and I am still losing.  I started at 294 and am now at 180. (Everyone says I look more like 150)   I am 6 months out.   I feel scared and quite anxious about living life as a smaller person.  I feel like I am losing my identity and there is nothing I can do about it.  My hubby is intimidated by my weight loss and scared I will just leave.   I want to stay with him - he is a good guy and we are a good team.  I want more intimacy  (and sex) than he seems willing to give.

Anyone else out there had these thoughts - and how did you get through them?     Thanks in advance.

I can relate to this post..I went from my highest of 285lbs to now 168-170 at 8m out. 

All i can say is keep your head up and I'll keep you and ur family in my prayers. Good job by the way! way to go on the weight loss!

The mental part is definitely the hardest. It gets better, I promise!! It just takes time.

Maybe you and your husband need counseling. My boyfriend has loved me through thick and thin. We have not had any issues as far as my weight loss goes.

There are many people that have these feelings.  The best advice I can give is to seek professional guidance.  The surgery was on your guts...we still have to do the head work.

Best wishes.

I went from 332 to 142 (but have been maintaining at about 147 for a couple of years).  It took me a long time to get used to my new body size (to be able to realistically SEE my new body size).  That is VERY common.  It takes the brain a while to "catch up".  In my case, it took about 2 years, but I had been MO most of my adult life and SMO for about 8 years prior to my surgery so that probably caused it to take longer.

It is not quite as common (but is not unusual) for people to feel like they are losing their identity along with the weight.  (I felt the opposite... like my exterior was finally starting to match my interior!)  It is also very common to have relationship issues.  Counseling (both individual and couples counseling) can be very useful.  Your identity needs to be so much more than your weight!  Also, a trained therapist can help facilitate the communication that you and your husband seem to need surrounding this issue.

Lora

Thanks everyone!  Today's pic:

Wow!  You look amazing!  Congratulations on all your hard work.

I started at 283.5 and weigh 137 now at 5'5, once I got my tt done I actually started liking my body and my boyfriend liked the fact I felt good about myself.  I will never be a size 2 but I am good with size 6, my boyfriend would prefer if I was a 14, but he knows I would not be happy and he only wants my happiness with my body.  My body finally matched the size I saw myself in my head.  My weight has never been an issue in my relationship.  And now I own more g strings, garters, thongs, corsets etc my boyfriend is thrilled.

Good luck