Nik's personal disclaimer

It's time I take responsibility for my sporadic presence here on OH. I admit I've been a bit disenfranchised by this site as of late. I've been here a few years and while it's a great place for support, I don't always find it the most conducive place for HONESTY. When I was a newbie the vets told it like it is and held no punches. I didn't always like it, but I respected that they had walked this walk and maybe I'd do well to at least consider what they say.

Lately it seems if you do that, you're mean. Or negative. I don't like that. So I'm putting folks on notice. I do not, will not, never, EVER BS you. If I think you are doing something harmful to yourself (physically or emotionally) I will call you on it. Don't like it? Block me now. I also expect the same from you guys to me. I know I have sort of a big ego but it is not beyond being able to receive constructive criticism. And truth be told (as Lora can affirm) sometimes I NEED a good smack inna head.

So that's my disclaimer. New folks, know that I tell the truth because I care, not to be mean. If we were great at managing our own lives, frankly we would not have arrived at this particular place in our lives. So sometimes outside perspective can be invaluable. That's where I see my place here and I'm honestly going to try to be around more often.

There. That's all. You may now return to your regularly scheduled fabulosity.

I appreciate the honesty you have demonstrated when replying to my posts and appreciate the vets who continue to post.  Many ask difficult questions that provoke thought and consideration.  All of the vets have helped me along my journey with solid advice.  It is my sincere hope to pay it forward as I share my experiences. 

I've never been one to blow smoke - hence being blocked by people I don't even know!!!!

I will admit that I hate the whole "this is a support board" thing - support does not always mean that you'll get your hand patted - sometimes it does mean a kick up the Jacksy!!   

I have noticed that there is more and more misinformation being given on here and I do try and correct it where I can but the silence afterwards convinces me that people only take in what they want to hear ...     or maybe I don't hear it over all the pouches blowing up when people drink a Coke or two

You should just continue being YOU and if people don't like it, they can block you like they do me!!!!

OMG!!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA   I needed this! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

or maybe I don't hear it over all the pouches blowing up when people drink a Coke or two

LMAO and spitting coffee all over my desk.

Why don;t we have a like   or LOVE button on here? i drink beer instead of Coke:) LMAO

You are so right, Sim Kim!  It's because in today's world it's unacceptable to say what you think.  This board can be too conditional and you get your ass reamed if someone gets all butt hurt.  We have coddled our children that everyone has to be a winner and don't hurt their fragile self esteem by saying sorry you lost the game. These people grow up and can't deal with the realities in life.  Guess what? We can't win all the time. There are winners and losers and in order to develop any character life is going to throw you curve balls and you better be prepared for however the outcome is and handle it. 

Now here is one that alot of people wont like.  Obese people seem to get on the pity pot alot.  You know what? Life happens to us all. There are reasons for all of us why we got to this point.  Also, people make jokes about how fat people stuff their faces with Twinkies.  Guess what?  yes we do!!!!! Just ask me how many homemade oatmeal cookies I could eat at a setting!  If I had a mouth on the back of my head, I would have sat backwards to a full mirror to feed it too!