OT - I need help, ideas!
I've been scarce, I know. But this upcoming week is going to be a hard one and I want to try to cope through it.
Next Friday is my mom's birthday. For those of you new to the board, my avatar is a picture of her. She passed away March 29.
But see here's the thing. I KNOW she doesn't want me or my stepdad or anyone sitting around crying about her on her birthday. She'd want to be celebrated. It's going to be HARD but I'm going to give it a go.
To that end I have a few ideas about how I'd like to celebrate her all next week. One way is with fitness. Toward the end of her life, my mom was largely immobile because of the effects of her diabetes. She could barely walk. So for HER I endeavor to run every day next week. I am up to being able to run 3 miles at a stretch (at the right time of day and with the right pre-run snack).
But I'd also like to get my girls involved in remembering their Nana and possibly something my stepdad can do too. I just thought I'd cast the net for ideas. What have you all done to remember lost loved ones?
Next Friday is my mom's birthday. For those of you new to the board, my avatar is a picture of her. She passed away March 29.
But see here's the thing. I KNOW she doesn't want me or my stepdad or anyone sitting around crying about her on her birthday. She'd want to be celebrated. It's going to be HARD but I'm going to give it a go.
To that end I have a few ideas about how I'd like to celebrate her all next week. One way is with fitness. Toward the end of her life, my mom was largely immobile because of the effects of her diabetes. She could barely walk. So for HER I endeavor to run every day next week. I am up to being able to run 3 miles at a stretch (at the right time of day and with the right pre-run snack).
But I'd also like to get my girls involved in remembering their Nana and possibly something my stepdad can do too. I just thought I'd cast the net for ideas. What have you all done to remember lost loved ones?
RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
On September 9, 2012 at 11:36 AM Pacific Time, Cleopatra_Nik wrote:
I've been scarce, I know. But this upcoming week is going to be a hard one and I want to try to cope through it.Next Friday is my mom's birthday. For those of you new to the board, my avatar is a picture of her. She passed away March 29.
But see here's the thing. I KNOW she doesn't want me or my stepdad or anyone sitting around crying about her on her birthday. She'd want to be celebrated. It's going to be HARD but I'm going to give it a go.
To that end I have a few ideas about how I'd like to celebrate her all next week. One way is with fitness. Toward the end of her life, my mom was largely immobile because of the effects of her diabetes. She could barely walk. So for HER I endeavor to run every day next week. I am up to being able to run 3 miles at a stretch (at the right time of day and with the right pre-run snack).
But I'd also like to get my girls involved in remembering their Nana and possibly something my stepdad can do too. I just thought I'd cast the net for ideas. What have you all done to remember lost loved ones?
You could look at pictures and tell stories about her. Some stories might be sad, but tell the funny stories, too. You and your girls could make a scrapbook or collage with pictures of her and any other memorabilia you like.
Do something to help other people in her honor. Spend the eveing serving dinner at a soup kitchen or playing with dogs at the animal shelter of delivering birthday cupcakes to a homeless shelter.
You can celebrate and cry at the same time. I'm sure she doesn't want you sitting around crying, but at the same time, I'm sure she understands you miss her and it's hard being without her. So you celebrate, and you enjoy your memories of her, and you cry when you feel like it, and you also allow yourself to have fun and laugh.
Kelly
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Well...I am doing a free cooking demo this Wednesday (well not completely free...I asked the surgeon's office to cover the cost of the food but I did not charge the normal fee that I would usually). This was not originally because of my mom, but I guess that could count as doing something nice for others.
Our church also has a shelter. I may check into opportunities there.
Our church also has a shelter. I may check into opportunities there.
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You are doing such a good job working to keep a positive frame of mind with all this. I will be sending you positive vibes this week with big hugs.
The idea that I like to do is write loved ones a letter, or draw a picture, etc. Then I've always burned it. It's always been my way of sending them the letter. (I first did this when my best friend passed away when I was 9).
The idea that I like to do is write loved ones a letter, or draw a picture, etc. Then I've always burned it. It's always been my way of sending them the letter. (I first did this when my best friend passed away when I was 9).
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That's a good idea.
And yeah, I'm trying to keep my head up. My mom always called me the "stoic one." I am that family member who rarely ever falls apart (in front of others) and that everyone seems to call for advice or to "tell on one another." I hope I can keep it together. We'll see.
And yeah, I'm trying to keep my head up. My mom always called me the "stoic one." I am that family member who rarely ever falls apart (in front of others) and that everyone seems to call for advice or to "tell on one another." I hope I can keep it together. We'll see.
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just make sure you take time to care for yourself as well. I understand needing to be there for others, but you are important too.
big hugs!
big hugs!
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on 9/9/12 5:09 am - OH
on 9/9/12 5:09 am - OH
I'm sorry for your loss.
Creating a Memory Box can be a nice way to have everyone participate. You could start with a picture of your Mom and then have everyone share a particularly fond memory or representation of what they would like to share.
The items for the box may be something that you have (ex: a crochet hook, if this is something she enjoyed); something you acquire (ex: a movie jacket cover, if it represents her favorite movie or a movie that was watched with her); or something that is made (pictures drawn by your daughters, a poem).
We'll be keeping you in prayer.
Creating a Memory Box can be a nice way to have everyone participate. You could start with a picture of your Mom and then have everyone share a particularly fond memory or representation of what they would like to share.
The items for the box may be something that you have (ex: a crochet hook, if this is something she enjoyed); something you acquire (ex: a movie jacket cover, if it represents her favorite movie or a movie that was watched with her); or something that is made (pictures drawn by your daughters, a poem).
We'll be keeping you in prayer.
You could start a memorial garden with flowers, shrubs, a few trees and put a bench or a chair there so when you feel like you need time with her, you can got to that quite spot and talk. That would be "her" spot. Pick things she would like so when you see them, you know she is there. Put up a plaque that states it's her garden. My prayers are with you!
Kenny B.
Philippians 4;6-7
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
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