Pre-Op Diet and Cooking for family

Ah, gotcha. I have the opposite problem. DH can be demanding and spoiled, and he's never been overweight a day in his life so he sees being fat as a moral weakness and a character flaw.

I hope your DH comes around and shows more active support. Change is scary for a lot of people, so maybe it's not that he is truly okay with being overweight but more that the changes are frightening.

Whatever the case, good luck and keep us posted how it goes.

First of all, if he is not on board with the surgery then you may be heading towards failure.  Sorry to sound so harsh but I have seen many marriages end in divorce because the spouse hasn't made the changes to help be supportive of your new tool.  My wife dieted right along with me and even did the pre-op shakes with me and she has lost over 30 pounds since i had surgery 6 months ago.  If he doesn't know how to cook you need to teach him.  if he refuses to cook then let him starve.  This is not 1952 where the men can expect a woman to stay in the kitchen.  he is just as capable to do these things as you are.  Explain to him that without this surgery you may die from obesity and then who is going to cook for him at that point?  i have found enjoyment in cooking after surgery and i don't have the cravings like others so i may have a taste here or there as i cook for my family and guess what......I am a man......if i can cook, he can cook.

 I feel bad for you that you have such a not-understanding partner.  If he makes the choice to eat pizza, fast food, whatever because you don't feel comfortable cooking, then so what?  Let him make his silly choices.  You need to take care of yourself.

I'm pre-op and I anticipated this same thing happening to me. So every weekend I'm having my husband cook dinner with me so I can teach him to cook. He isn't very happy about having to cook for himself but he's learning some meals so he won't have to live off of frozen foods. I've even taught him how to make some things I will be able to eat eventually after surgery.  Could you try to talk to your husband and see if he would be willing to learn to cook some things?

Ya its funny, he came home from work today talking about the guys at work giving him a hard time about being a pain in the butt. And now he is doing the diet with me, so he says.

tell him to make his own meals.

I agree with what everyone else said - he should cook his own meals.  I too am on day five (and starving!) and my husband has cooked for himself everynight - he even eats away from me - bless his heart!  

It helps - seeing the food ads on TV is bad enough!