Air it Out Thread

Yes!!  Me too!!

 I'd really like to get a dog. My husband would like to get a dog. We're just not in the best place, space wise. I'm in the process of becoming a foster dog home, and my husband is mad that I want to do this. I see both sides of the situation, but I feel this would great to do. Besides, it would help introduce my daughter to dogs. She loves cats, and she likes dogs, but I want her to be comfortable around them.

Grrr...

I am angry at myself.

I went through a lot to get my surgery and I am already screwing it up.  Why do I want to sabatoge myself???  I keep eating things I shouldn't be and I know it.  I wanna slap myself out out of it!  I justify it by saying it is such a small amount it won't hurt me.  Now we all know that's how people gain weight back.

Dear Manisha,

You have wanted this surgery for so long why are you mucking it up??  Stop being a self fullfilling prophecy, put on your big girl panties and succeed!  You have a cruise in 9 months and you said you would never go on another cruise fat!  You want to have fun and not be so tired all the time!  Plus you wanna look cute!  Do it!

Love,
Your hard assed self

You dont have to do it alone.... Perhaps look into some behavioural therapy... Ask for extra help if you need it, that is what it is there for...NO ONE Expects anyone to be an expert on this journey....

Your doing it... Hugs.

I find that making hard and fast rules help me to avoid the self sabbotaging pitfalls. If I put the "good" stuff out of reach I have to really think about it before eating it. Like, if I really want a dark chocolate covered pretzel then I have to find the step stool, move the basket off the top of the fridge and then reeaacchh into the back of the cabinet to get them. That means that I can't eat them mindlessly because I'm working for it. Or I'm just too lazy to get them so I don't have them. Whatever works.

Also, I have a rule that I never go through drive thru. Mostly this is my anxiety--I can't handle drive-thru--but if you make it a rule that you have to go inside then you're less likely to get fast food and more likely to really check out the menu and get something more appropriate when you do go in.

Talk to your therapist about behavioral changes and try to avoid beating yourself up too much. Move on from today since it's all you can do and stick to the plan! You'll be skinny in time for that cruise--you'll see!

Ok here is mine... i am upset with no right to be upset. My husbands contract with his job is over and it was pretty unexpected. He is doing everything right as he in we have applied for EI and he is doing the process to get into a program in Canada called Second Career so he can get licensed in his field.

But there are two things that are upsetting me.... First he sleeps A LOT! I work from home and my office is in my bedroom and so I get to listen to him sleep all day... grrrr... and second is that in our 14 year together he has held no fewer then 10 jobs.... meaning he is in and out of work almost every year...this means that even though I HATE my job I HAVE to be the responsible one because I can not rely on him to hold a job.

Now I will say that he has had a LOT of health challenges and not all of these job losses/gains/losses are his fault.... I am just saying that it SUCKS to have to be the "responsible" one all the time.

Juls

WOW Nik you had to get me started today!! lol

I have read and heard people say "Religious Nut".  Why is it when the opposition has a point to make they say "Religious Nut"?  I don't refer to Atheist as "Atheist NUT" or someone who is political "Political NUT" or someone who is passionate about WLS a "WLS NUT".  I do not push religion on anybody if someone has a question or interest in religion I will surely answer.  What I believe in is my RIGHT and I don't believe I need to be bullied by calling me a NUT.  So anyway that is my Sermon for the day!! lol              debbie

Actually, I use some variant of "nut" or "loon" to describe any type of extremist. It's not a matter of disagreeing me, it's a matter of them shoving their pet cause down my throat. I have a vegan acquaintance I call "that vegan whackjob" because she won't stop telling me and every other non-vegan she meets that we're animal abusers and enslavers. If that's her opinion, whatever. But she just cannot keep it to herself and won't rest until she converts everyone she meets her way of living. In the meantime, she guilts and shames those who won't covert. So THAT is a "nut" to me.

Just sayin. :) 

Mine is the money woes.
Plain and simple

Oh and plantars warts. Omg they hurt so bad

Here I am training for a race with my f---d up feet

I am over my grown daughter that moved home with her 2-year old daughter and is causing complete chaos in my previously quiet house. When your kid dumps apple juice on my new hardwood floors, draws on the walls with blue crayon or decides to paint her nails and the carpet hot pink do something about it. Clean it up! Put down the phone or laptop and watch her to begin with!

I love them both more than anything, but it chaps my ass when I get on her to clean these things up she has the nerve to get mad at me. I am tired of working 9-10 hours at the job that pays and another 9-10 at the one that doesn't.

Okay, I'm done, got it out. Now to focus on the good stuff. The unlimited amounts of playtime, hugs, kisses and just cuddling on grandma's lap because nobody else's lap is better.