Can't change what I see in the mirror
I can tell by my clothes that I have lost weight but at times I look in the mirror and I don't see it, I know in time I will. A fews days ago I found a lump on my upper back and I started to panic till I realized it was bone, I guess I forgot that under the excess weight I had bones. I am finding bones all over the place and it totally excited me, stupid as that sounds but it did. Today I saw my sister for the first time since before the surgery and when she saw me she just about fainted, she just kept staring and telling me how great I looked, we went shopping and even though she kept telling how great I looked I still saw the old me in every single mirror. I hope that changes because it is getting depressing still seeing the old me even with losing 70 lbs.
Pictures are a great way to see it but if your like me I avoided cameras! Lol. Put your old clothes on!!!! I simply was shocked by doing that and it really started to sink in!
Try to be happy based on the lbs and the clothes because you are succeeding and are getting healthier every day so there is no reason to let yourself feel down YOU ARE SUCCEEDING! Yay
Try to be happy based on the lbs and the clothes because you are succeeding and are getting healthier every day so there is no reason to let yourself feel down YOU ARE SUCCEEDING! Yay
Decision made weight 265 SW 249 CW 153 9/4/12 next goal 145lbs OMG 
I am 2.5 years out and still have this issue. The brain takes a lot longer to see tha changes we are going through (because they are happening so quickly to our bodies. They operate on our stomach's not our brain. I saw a therapist for the first two years I was postop (and before) to help me address my head issues that went along with this journey for me (all the attention I was given now, especially from the opposite sex, people holding doors for me, looking in the mirror--I always avoided mirrors, all the little things that most people take for granted) and it helped out a lot.
Even now, at 160 lbs in an optimum BMI, I still don't see it in the mirror. For me, lots and lots of pictures do help. Sometimes when my fiancee takes them of me then shows me on the digital camera I cry. I don't know that's what the rest of the world sees because I don't.
One exercise that I have found helpful is to stand naked in front of a full length mirror and look at yourself, really look at yourself The good, the bad and the 'needs improvement' as I like to call it LOL. I love my body now, even the parts that resemble a sharpei puppy. I am going through the 2nd half of my journey which is to pursue reconstructive plastic surgery (in my case I need a lower body lift) after losing 175 lbs.
In any case, just know that what you are going through is completely normal. Enjoy all the clothes shopping and new stuff you get to wear now. It happens so quickly that first year and it only gets better!!!
Mallisa
Even now, at 160 lbs in an optimum BMI, I still don't see it in the mirror. For me, lots and lots of pictures do help. Sometimes when my fiancee takes them of me then shows me on the digital camera I cry. I don't know that's what the rest of the world sees because I don't.
One exercise that I have found helpful is to stand naked in front of a full length mirror and look at yourself, really look at yourself The good, the bad and the 'needs improvement' as I like to call it LOL. I love my body now, even the parts that resemble a sharpei puppy. I am going through the 2nd half of my journey which is to pursue reconstructive plastic surgery (in my case I need a lower body lift) after losing 175 lbs.
In any case, just know that what you are going through is completely normal. Enjoy all the clothes shopping and new stuff you get to wear now. It happens so quickly that first year and it only gets better!!!
Mallisa
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