Post-op "skinny friend syndrome"?

 So...two people in my life are newbies to weight loss surgery: my baby-daddy's-other-baby-mama (henceforth referred to as "BDOBM") had the sleeve recently and my lifelong friend is having RNY in a few weeks.

It occurs to me now I have these two people, who are part of my day-to-day life...who are or will be shiny new post ops. And I am...not. So I will not be:

- in weight loss freefall
-marveling at my changing body
-marveling at my tiny eating capacity
-watching my clothing size morph rapidly

And both of them may end up smaller than me. In which case I wonder if *I* might exhibit "skinny friend syndrome" (that insecurity that comes from no longer being the skinny one). 

I guess it all evens out because conversely I won't be:

-worrying about stalls
-lamenting about foods that I used to love making me sick
-going through the new post-op relationship rigamarole

But it'll be interesting to see how I adjust.

I value the stability of not being newly post op. They may have their marvels and all that great stuff, but ye gods... I had my fair share of stalls and "OMG is this it?!" plateaus and worries about strictures or blockages or hernias and other terrible things and I've had enough nearly comatose dumping sessions and foamies and vomiting and grouchy pouchy days and dehydration and not eating enough protein and wanting what I couldn't have... the list goes on and on.

Like the rest of us, their body will decide where they stop. Or worse, they'll sabotage it. I had a friend who was my weight (380lbs) at surgery and she lost 100lbs quick and so I figured she'd reach her goal weight when I didn't. And then, I don't know what happened, but by 2 years post op she'd gained it all back. I believe she started drinking heavily. She got a whole new circle of friends, so I really don't know but she sure was posting nothing but drinking/partying pictures on the internet.

 I feel ya.

My gf just had a lap band (and is doing awesome btw), but I can totally feel myself missing the weight loss phase that she is in right now.  Even though I'm good where I ended up (well, lets get 5 more pounds off) I envy the feelings she's having when her clothes get too big and she gets to go down a size or two.  I'm soooo happy for her.  Soooo happy.  But I miss those highs.  She's tall, and her ideal weight is a good 30-40 pounds over my current weight, so I don't have the skinny friend syndrome.  I do however have a slight irrational fear of replacement.  :)

It's all good.