Repost: Cinderella Syndrome
Originally posted in July 2010
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/rny/4205843/The-quotCinderellaquot-Syndrome/
No this isn’t another “Nik gets all preachy" moment. I’ve been working on another one of those though. Cuz the board gets lively when I do that. Folks rise up against my totalitarian views and there is a lot of good debating. :)
Nope, not that kind of post. Why? Because I am just as much a perpetrator of the following mentality as all of you.
The Cinderella Syndrome.
What is it? In a nutshell what that means to me is that when we lose weight we feel great, beautiful, wonderful, energetic, POWERFUL…BUT… In the back of our heads we think when midnight comes the carriage is going to turn into a pumpkin. That instantly we will gain all our weight back and wake up one day fat, vitamin deficient and without the ability to eat very much. This would be my personal interpretation of hell. Cuz if I gotta be fat? Lemme have my buffalo wings!
Ok, so here’s some facts:
Nobody gains (or regains) 100+ lbs. overnight. So by taking a few pre-emptive steps you can catch regain before it gets out of control and do something about it. Each decision we make contributes to losing, maintaining or gaining.
So one bite of a cookie is not going to make us gain all our weight back. One bite of a cookie followed by another, and another, and another…that just might do it. So you have to balance your decisions out. Some folks stay away from trigger foods altogether. Others (raises hand) have harder heads. I personally choose to plan for treats. So that means if I had a cookie at the staff party, I’m not eating a carby dinner. And furthermore I’m getting my ass on the treadmill whether I want to or not. These are the decisions that make up success or failure. There is no moment of truth bite that makes you gain all your weight back. Again, you HAVE some control.
If you don’t do the head work, you are WAY more likely to regain than those that did it.
Because, cheesy as it sounds (and it pains me to type this) it really isn’t what you’re eating, it’s what’s eating you. So figure it out. Go to support group. Post here. Get a therapist (they are worth their weight in GOLD). Go to Overeaters Anonymous. Whatever you have to do, do it. Because the surgery is not a magic wand!
Lastly, ignorance is not bliss. If you ignore your rebellion (not getting enough protein, vitamins, water, exercise) or a slight regain then yeah…you’re probably going to continue that trend until you man up and face reality. I know this from personal experience.
So with that, I am done with my little diatribe, manifesto or whatever you want to call it. We are not Cinderella. Our losses won’t just go POOF overnight. We have some control. The surgery takes you so far. After that you are steering the boat. So steer it where YOU want it to go.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/rny/4205843/The-quotCinderellaquot-Syndrome/
No this isn’t another “Nik gets all preachy" moment. I’ve been working on another one of those though. Cuz the board gets lively when I do that. Folks rise up against my totalitarian views and there is a lot of good debating. :)
Nope, not that kind of post. Why? Because I am just as much a perpetrator of the following mentality as all of you.
The Cinderella Syndrome.
What is it? In a nutshell what that means to me is that when we lose weight we feel great, beautiful, wonderful, energetic, POWERFUL…BUT… In the back of our heads we think when midnight comes the carriage is going to turn into a pumpkin. That instantly we will gain all our weight back and wake up one day fat, vitamin deficient and without the ability to eat very much. This would be my personal interpretation of hell. Cuz if I gotta be fat? Lemme have my buffalo wings!
Ok, so here’s some facts:
Nobody gains (or regains) 100+ lbs. overnight. So by taking a few pre-emptive steps you can catch regain before it gets out of control and do something about it. Each decision we make contributes to losing, maintaining or gaining.
So one bite of a cookie is not going to make us gain all our weight back. One bite of a cookie followed by another, and another, and another…that just might do it. So you have to balance your decisions out. Some folks stay away from trigger foods altogether. Others (raises hand) have harder heads. I personally choose to plan for treats. So that means if I had a cookie at the staff party, I’m not eating a carby dinner. And furthermore I’m getting my ass on the treadmill whether I want to or not. These are the decisions that make up success or failure. There is no moment of truth bite that makes you gain all your weight back. Again, you HAVE some control.
If you don’t do the head work, you are WAY more likely to regain than those that did it.
Because, cheesy as it sounds (and it pains me to type this) it really isn’t what you’re eating, it’s what’s eating you. So figure it out. Go to support group. Post here. Get a therapist (they are worth their weight in GOLD). Go to Overeaters Anonymous. Whatever you have to do, do it. Because the surgery is not a magic wand!
Lastly, ignorance is not bliss. If you ignore your rebellion (not getting enough protein, vitamins, water, exercise) or a slight regain then yeah…you’re probably going to continue that trend until you man up and face reality. I know this from personal experience.
So with that, I am done with my little diatribe, manifesto or whatever you want to call it. We are not Cinderella. Our losses won’t just go POOF overnight. We have some control. The surgery takes you so far. After that you are steering the boat. So steer it where YOU want it to go.
RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
I gave that another name: seasonal wardrobe paranoia. It affects four in five post-ops (totally made up statistic, btw).
RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
Nik, my stats professor told us that 3 of every 5 stats were made up. Yeah, that was one of them too, LOL!
Rebecca
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135.
Circumferential LBL, anchor TT, BL/BR, brachioplasty 12-16-10 Drs. Howard and Gutowski
Thigh lift 3-24-11, Drs. Howard and Gutowski again!
Height 5' 5". Start point 254. DH's goal: 154. My guess: 144. Insurance goal: 134. Currently bouncing around 130-135. 
You must have been lurking over at the Light Weight forum, cause we have been discussing the same thing. A bunch of us in maintainance and re-evaluating what we have been doing and what we need to be doing.
Great post and thanks.
Great post and thanks.
66 yrs young, 4'11" hw 220, goal 120 met at 12 months, cw 129 learning Maintainance
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