OT - Feeling grateful for family today

When my mom died, one thing I wondered about is the relationship with my stepdad. My mom and stepdad were married 6 years and in that time we bonded, but you never really know what will happen when the person that links you to another person is gone.

Nearly two months later, I am so happy and grateful to say that I still have my stepdaddy! Guys, I was really scared about that. My biological father is...around. Sorta. Sometimes. But my stepdad means a lot to me. He's the person who taught me to understand football. He's the person who grubs up my Apple Brown Nik (apple brown betty) at Thanksgiving. He's the one who gives the guys I date the "once over" and fixes my ho****er heater when it's acting up.

This morning we had a long conversation that sort of affirmed for me that we ARE still family. He's still there for me. I still have an active parent in my life!!!!

I am so crazy cuz I am sitting here crying at this thought. I just felt so lost when my mom died, like I didn't have an anchor anymore.

I totally think this is my mom's doing. I think she is orchestrating from heaven, solidifying us into an earth-bound family. And all that sounds hooky but right this very moment I am SO grateful for it.

And i just needed to share that.

I am so happy for you. Jealous too as my husband lost his mom suddenly to cancer 2 years ago. His step dad who had rasied him since 8 years old my husband was 38 when his mom died has basically cut our family out of his. He is the faithful loving father to his 2 daughters he had with my husbands mom but Erik is out of his life. No calls emails letters nothing. Erik had him as his best man at our wedding he believed he was his father not a step father. I miss the kids not having a grandpa. You are so blessed to have such a amazing step father who has made such a lasting impression with you. I bet your mom is orchestrating from heaven and smiling down on you both. That is awesome!

 I have no doubt that your mother is absolutely guiding things for you from above Nik.

It is wonderful that you and your stepdad still have that relationship, and I love that you are so appreciative of that bond that you posted about it here. You have such a kind soul! 

that is awesome. I do think the people we love watch over us from above. I bet he is grateful that you and your kids are still part of his life too.

 Glad to hear that your step-dad is still family.......hope it continues to be that way!   Blessings being sent !

I am so happy that relationship has maintained!  I have a step father who has been my father since I was 5.  I call him dad.  He is more of a dad than my real dad is.  Of course my real dad is still in the picture but I don't talk to him that often.