Trauma "anniversary" and food cravings

Oxford Comma Hag
on 4/25/12 4:20 am

No words of advice, just virtual hugs.

Take care, Lora.

longhornrose
on 4/25/12 4:25 am - South Texas

RNY on 09/13/12

My heart goes out to you. . . wish I could take away your pain. Please be gentle with yourself, and do what you have to do to get through this rough time.

Beth

Consult WT: 312 SW: 274 CW: 244

Scherrie Tappin
on 4/25/12 4:26 am - CT

Dear Lora,

You have been such a wonderful source of strength, wisdom and knowledge since I came to this site. You and Dave. We all have our moments of struggle, and I'm sure this will continue throughout our lives.

Rest assured, you won't blow it. You will get through this and it will all be over soon. Hang in there and know that you have helped countless others through many issues and perhaps this very situation.

Prayers for your strength coming your way!

Cheryl

RNY 5/25/2011

CarolBeth
on 4/25/12 4:47 am - SoCal, CA

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It's understandable that you feel you need the comfort from food.

You are an inspiration and source of vaulable information on this board. Just know that you are loved by your OH family, and as you said, you WILL get through through this difficult time.

Carol - RNY July 11, 2011

poet_kelly
on 4/25/12 4:49 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

My advice may differ from most people's, but honestly, if you expect these strong cravings to pass in just a few days, I would use other coping skills when you feel able to but when you really feel you need to eat for comfort, I'd eat. I'd try to make healthy (or healthier) choices when you can, but I'd allow myself the comfort I needed.

I would not do that if I felt the strong urge to eat for comfort on a regular basis, but in this specific instance, I think it's OK to make an exception.

Now, just because that's what I would do, that doesn't mean you need to do it if it doesn't feel right for you, of course. I support you in whatever you feel you need to do, and if that's doing whatever it takes not to comfort eat, then I support you in that.

PM me if you want to talk. Or call me. I don't know if you have my number, but if you PM me, I'll give it to you.

Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.

Cicerogirl, The PhD
Version
on 4/25/12 7:41 am - OH

RNY on 08/27/07

If both you and Deb suggested it, it must be a good idea, right?!? LOL.

It would take some of the additional stress off of me if I quit worrying about the food so much. I haven't been eating very well, so maybe the calories have not been as bad this week as I think they have.

Yes, I still have your number (I think, LOL... Not sure about anything right at the moment... Somehow I ended up with TWO bottles of 400-count Tender Iron (and even increasing my iron only takes me to 2 or 3 times ER week, so that is WELL over a year's worth in ONE bottle)! Not user if the mistake was mine or hers,but I sent Michelle a message asking if I can send one back!). Thanks.

Lora

14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained

You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.

poet_kelly
on 4/25/12 7:48 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

I know this is a little different than what many people would say, but I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with being comforted by food. I think it becomes a problem when that is the only way we know to comfort ourselves and when we require comfort often enough that we develop medical problems from overeating. Just like I don't think there is anything wrong with having a drink now and then, but if you drink every day and start developing liver disease, you have a drinking problem.

And I think Deb's suggestion of getting the best chocolate you can, or making really good mac n cheese, is an excellent idea. You can use it as a way to nuture yourself. And I don't see anything wrong with that as long as you can nuture yourself in other ways at other times.

Kelly

Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.

Michelle V.
on 4/25/12 4:56 am - Livonia, MI

RNY on 12/14/11

Maybe you should try to find a very physical activity. Hiking, spin class, tae bo, etc - the release of endorphins makes you feel like you could rule the world.

Cicerogirl, The PhD
Version
on 4/25/12 8:58 am - OH

RNY on 08/27/07

Normally, that would be a great suggestion. With the condition of my knee that needs replaced, though (especially after gardening yesterday that has made both knees grumpy), those things are physically out of the question. (I also honestly (almost) think that I HAVE no endorphins. Even when I was trying (in vain) to lose an extra 10 pounds and exercising like crazy (and further damaging my knee), I never felt anything approaching what other people describe.)

Walking is ok, though, if the weather clears up.

Lora

14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained

You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.

illinois Gama D.
on 4/25/12 4:57 am

RNY on 04/15/03

I really have nothing to add but wanted to say hang in there, you know it is a tought road for a few more days and then "the sun will shine again" for you Denise

Rny 2003

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