I had to recommend delaying someone's surgery

You did the right thing for the right reasons. I am sorry you feel bad about making the decision but I understand why you feel that way. At least I think I understand.

That person may be mad in the short term but in the long run you may be saving their life. Try to not feel down about. I know you can't feel good about it because you are a caring person who truly wants the best for the people you help.

Bless you for caring enough to do what is right!

 You did the right thing for sure! People need to be well aware of all the changes they will face after surgery. For people that weren't required to have a psych evals before surgery end up being in total shock and end up learning the hard way what you can and cannot eat. So you probably saved her. She'll thank you later.

It pains me to see people on here, post op, *****ally have no idea what has been done to them or what their responsibility is for LIFE!!!

I feel I can almost pick out people who I *know* will be successful and those that will have a very much more rocky road ...    Psychs who just rubber stamp are not doing people a service.  We know how hard this journey is in the long term and what is required of us, and while a lot of that comes with experience, a basic knowledge of anatomy and nutrition and an understanding as to what this is going to mean in the early stages, at a year, two years and 10 years + really needs to be given to pre-ops!

You absolutely did the right thing and I wish everyone had the opportunity to see a psych *****ally understands the commitment and knowledge this surgery needs to be successful.

I think you saved her a lot of grief, she may have been one to to expect a miracle or not know what she got herself into,This will give her the time to get the propper info and counseling she needs, . I know it would be hard to be the one to give the aproval or disaproval but i give you kudos, would hate to see someone fail because of lack of iinfo .Next thing you know she is doing the "OMG, what did i get myself into" dance and it is way to late then, good catch Lora,

Lora
I support you 100%.  This is such a tough ride when you know what to expect, and worked with a surgeon's office to prepare yourself.  I can't imagine where I would have been without all of the research and information that I gathered pre-op, and still it has been harder than I ever expected.  The results have been better, but getting there has taken a lot of mental toughness.

I know the patient will be disappointed, but better disappointed and safe, than in serious medical trouble from not following the appropriate nutrition and vitamin regime.

 I think it needs to be so much harder to get this surgery. You did the right thing. It's such a drastic thing to do..I don't know why some doctor's let patients go through that don't know anything.
I cringe reading posts from people who truly don't understand what's going on with them. I think that's malpractice.
You did the right thing,
Deb

Absolutely agree that you did the right thing. You have the additional benefit of not only having the surgery but from being on this site and through real life, knowing others that have had it and what it takes to be successful. You need to use that knowledge to help others be successful, and that is what you are doing for this lady. You didn't say no, she shouldn't have it at all, just that it should be delayed until she is more mentally prepared for it. You are saving her from a lot of pain, confusion, and many other problems that can happen post op if you don't know what you are doing. Instead of feeling bad that she might be upset now, you should be very proud of yourself that you are helping her to be more successful in the long term.

Congratulations on making the hard call.
Jan

 Thank you!  I really hope that someone like you does the psych evaluation if my stepson's fiance ever chooses the surgery.  She knows that she won't be able to eat everything after surgery, but she also has no coping mechanisms other than food.   She will need a lot of support if she ever decides to have surgery (and she really does need surgery).

I want her to be safe.