Is my surgery working right?

I see these posts fairly often.  People wonder if their surgery is working right or if their surgeon did something wrong or if their pouch has stretched, and they seem pretty worried and it seems like it's important to them that their surgery works like it's supposed to.  And that makes sense to me.  Who wants to go through major surgery only to find out it's not working?

But then I see people that are concerned their surgery is not working because their surgeon said to only eat 1/4 cup of food but they can eat a whole cup of food, or they thought they would dump if they ate a bite of cake but they ate three bites of cake and didn't dump.  Those things don't mean your surgery is not working, but I can understand why people might worry about that, especially if they didn't get good pre op education from their surgeons.

Here is what I want to say, though.  If it's important to you that your surgery works the way it is supposed to, the best way to make sure of that is to follow your post op plan.  If you eat more food than what your surgeon recommends, you might tolerate it fine or you might get sick.  If you eat more sugar than your surgeon recommends, you might tolerate it fine or you might dump.  But if you stick to your meal plan, you will most likely tolerate it fine and you will have the best chance of losing the weight you want to lose.

It's kind of like if you buy a new appliance and it comes with directions.  You can read the directions and follow them and then your appliance will probably work like it's supposed to.  If you disregard the directions and just try lots of different things, the appliance might still work or you might damage it or you might not get the results you want.  Your RNY is a tool and your surgeon's plan is the directions for how to use your tool.  If you follow the directions, your tool will probably work just fine.

 Ah but the rub is how many people do only what thier mother, father, pastor said to do much place only doing what the doctor said to do.

Most people are rebellous. They want to do what they want and everything turn out right. Thats what happened in the Garden isn't it?

 we're not talking about rebelling against 'the man' or anything.

we all CHOSE to have this surgery.  what would there possibly be to rebel against?

and i have a different take of what happened in the garden, but that's another discussion lol

 Yea, we choose the surgery thinking it will solve all our problems. But alas it only puts a big bandaid on it. If we choose to we can soak that bandaide in bad behavior and the magic surgery is all for naught.

not everyone chose the surgery thinking it will solve all their problems.  I was, and am, well aware that it is ONE tool in my toolbox.  it's a poweful tool - but my head and actions are more powerful. 

Of course people can choose to do as they wish, but not all of us went into it thinking it was a magic surgery or bandaid.

What happened in the Garden, or whether there even was a Garden, is something people have very different opinions about. 

 i just had a weird comparison after reading the comment about what people do what their mother, father, pastor told them.....

it's like the asmbs wrote the bible on the surgery, the basics. the surgeons/nuts/etc are like the different denominations, all telling different variations on the same story, with some changes in the interpretation. then we are the congregation, some blindly following, some rebelling, and some questioning and seeking the best answers.

lol and this is coming from a non-religious person, somehow this kind of just popped into my head.

I think it is very much like that, although I'm not sure what it means that it occurred to you in that way!

 i don't know, religion keeps showing itself to me lately. maybe i'll see if i can go to mass with my friend and her fiance next weekend (its her bridal shower tomorrow so i don't think she'll be going)