I can't control everything but I can control...
Some things. So this week, which promises to be hectic, stressful and challenging, I am going to pick a few things I CAN control and work at those. They are small but it's something, right?
I'd love it if some of you guys would join me in deciding a few things you can control in this big, overwhelming world.
This week, here's what I CAN control:
1. I have all-day work meetings all this week with lunch in and the ever present all day snack table. Well I can't control all that. BUT I can pack an arsenal of low-cal snacks so that if I get the urge I am munching on things that are healthy. So I can control that.
2. I can control my stress level in the middle of this whole house thing by vowing to do one kind thing for myself a day. It may be some extra time grooming after my shower, a moment or two in bed before i wake up the kids, a lunch time walk, but I need to do SOMETHING. My body is super sensitive to stress. I can't always control my stressors but I can control this.
So those are two things right off the bat. How about you? What can you control, even in seemingly uncontrollable situations?
I'd love it if some of you guys would join me in deciding a few things you can control in this big, overwhelming world.
This week, here's what I CAN control:
1. I have all-day work meetings all this week with lunch in and the ever present all day snack table. Well I can't control all that. BUT I can pack an arsenal of low-cal snacks so that if I get the urge I am munching on things that are healthy. So I can control that.
2. I can control my stress level in the middle of this whole house thing by vowing to do one kind thing for myself a day. It may be some extra time grooming after my shower, a moment or two in bed before i wake up the kids, a lunch time walk, but I need to do SOMETHING. My body is super sensitive to stress. I can't always control my stressors but I can control this.
So those are two things right off the bat. How about you? What can you control, even in seemingly uncontrollable situations?
RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
1. I can't control that our accountant isn't responding to our emails to see if she efiled our taxes. I can control that I can email her and call her on alternating days to not sound like an impatient psycho.
2. I can't control that my husband is having issues with his health. But I can control removing some stressors from him, encouraging him to eat & drink better, and pushing him to exercise with me.
3. I can't control that I went on a little shoe spending bender last week. But I can control the spending this week.
2. I can't control that my husband is having issues with his health. But I can control removing some stressors from him, encouraging him to eat & drink better, and pushing him to exercise with me.
3. I can't control that I went on a little shoe spending bender last week. But I can control the spending this week.
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
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RNY Gastric Bypass 1-8-08 350/327/200 (HW/SW/CW). I spend most of my time playing with my food over at Bariatric Foodie - check me out!
1) I can control my attitude when I'm upset. Just because I've had a bad day doesn't give me license to lash out at others.
2) I can control when I go to bed. If I don't want to be tired all day, I can take responsibility to get enough sleep.
3) I can control what I get accomplished. Getting sucked into social media, a good movie, some trivial project, or a nap doesn't equal a valid excuse for procrastination.
4) I can control what and how much I put in my mouth.
5) I can control my mood. This is different from #1. A lot of people don't give themselves enough credit for being able to CHOOSE their mood. You might be late to work, get cut off in traffic, forget your breakfast, and have way too much to do, but that doesn't have to make you angry or frustrated if you don't let it. No matter how rough a situation, there's always something good somewhere, so focus on that and CHOOSE to be happy.
2) I can control when I go to bed. If I don't want to be tired all day, I can take responsibility to get enough sleep.
3) I can control what I get accomplished. Getting sucked into social media, a good movie, some trivial project, or a nap doesn't equal a valid excuse for procrastination.
4) I can control what and how much I put in my mouth.
5) I can control my mood. This is different from #1. A lot of people don't give themselves enough credit for being able to CHOOSE their mood. You might be late to work, get cut off in traffic, forget your breakfast, and have way too much to do, but that doesn't have to make you angry or frustrated if you don't let it. No matter how rough a situation, there's always something good somewhere, so focus on that and CHOOSE to be happy.
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Highest weight: 269. Surgery weight: 233. Goal weight: 144, and then we'll see..
Check out my video blog! www.youtube.com/user/HappilyShrinking/videos
Highest weight: 269. Surgery weight: 233. Goal weight: 144, and then we'll see..
your #5 made me giggle
I don't know if I can explain it, but for fun I'll try
I have a horrible horrible temper. It takes ages to set it off, but when I reach the tipping point, it doesn't take more than dropping something to cause a blowup. I hate the rages when they come, but I thought they were just a part of life.
Then I decided to "pick on" myself and also plan ahead. If I am walking to my back door I think to myself "If I get up there and it is locked I will be REALLY ticked" so I go around to the front door where if it is locked I have a spare key. If I can think "If that door is locked I'm gonna have to laugh", then I go ahead and try it.
If I am in "that kind" of mood, and I drop something, I tell my dog "that makes me SO happy.... we're having fun now". yes, dripping with sarcasm, but not a throwing things, explosive rage.
Might be dumb, but it works. And your #5 made me giggle
I don't know if I can explain it, but for fun I'll try
I have a horrible horrible temper. It takes ages to set it off, but when I reach the tipping point, it doesn't take more than dropping something to cause a blowup. I hate the rages when they come, but I thought they were just a part of life.
Then I decided to "pick on" myself and also plan ahead. If I am walking to my back door I think to myself "If I get up there and it is locked I will be REALLY ticked" so I go around to the front door where if it is locked I have a spare key. If I can think "If that door is locked I'm gonna have to laugh", then I go ahead and try it.
If I am in "that kind" of mood, and I drop something, I tell my dog "that makes me SO happy.... we're having fun now". yes, dripping with sarcasm, but not a throwing things, explosive rage.
Might be dumb, but it works. And your #5 made me giggle
I have to do the same thing sometimes.
I'm the same way with my temper. I'm a very, very slow burn, but when my fuse is gone, I can blow, and it doesn't take much. Unfortunately, that makes it all the scarier for people around me, I think
Because 99% of the time, I'm sunny and happy, and even if I'm irritated, it doesn't really show. Until BOOM. And then, look out. But then it's over and done just as fast as it came.
So when I feel that fuse dying down, I really have to keep a close monitor on it and make sure I catch it. Before I got fat, I'd use that pent up angry energy to abuse the hell out of a treadmill. I could run forever when I was angry.
I like your solutions, though. They make me smile. :D I may have to try that.
I'm the same way with my temper. I'm a very, very slow burn, but when my fuse is gone, I can blow, and it doesn't take much. Unfortunately, that makes it all the scarier for people around me, I think
Because 99% of the time, I'm sunny and happy, and even if I'm irritated, it doesn't really show. Until BOOM. And then, look out. But then it's over and done just as fast as it came.
So when I feel that fuse dying down, I really have to keep a close monitor on it and make sure I catch it. Before I got fat, I'd use that pent up angry energy to abuse the hell out of a treadmill. I could run forever when I was angry.
I like your solutions, though. They make me smile. :D I may have to try that.
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Check out my video blog! www.youtube.com/user/HappilyShrinking/videos
Highest weight: 269. Surgery weight: 233. Goal weight: 144, and then we'll see..
Check out my video blog! www.youtube.com/user/HappilyShrinking/videos
Highest weight: 269. Surgery weight: 233. Goal weight: 144, and then we'll see..
I think this is a great thing to think about.
1. I can't control that my depression has been worse lately. But I can control that I take my medication, that I at least make time to get enough rest even if I don't sleep well, and I can control that I look for a new therapist that would be a better fit for me.
2. I can't control that my back hurts but I can control that I talk to the back doc tomorrow about a new treatment option and that I don't push myself to do things that make it hurt more (like carrying heavy things).
1. I can't control that my depression has been worse lately. But I can control that I take my medication, that I at least make time to get enough rest even if I don't sleep well, and I can control that I look for a new therapist that would be a better fit for me.
2. I can't control that my back hurts but I can control that I talk to the back doc tomorrow about a new treatment option and that I don't push myself to do things that make it hurt more (like carrying heavy things).
Kelly
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Thanks for this, I now took a look at me , instead of all to prepare for around me. Like family, kids, house, job, etc..
1 - will be time for my training muscle for after surgery
2 - me papering time
3 - taking my lunch time at work (important)
1 - will be time for my training muscle for after surgery
2 - me papering time
3 - taking my lunch time at work (important)
Surgery date May 7 / 2012
Highest 312 lbs - Pre Op 297lbs - now 199 lbs
I know now that my location was never my destination.
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I can't control things from "outside" that are sources of stress.
Stress happens! But I can find another way to handle that stress other than eating it. 1x1=1, 1x2=2, ....
I can't control whether my body wants to cooperate in losing these lbs I've gained since November. But I CAN control logging everything I put in my mouth, taking all my vitamins, getting in exercise, and not buying foods that trigger my binge monster.
I can't control what my grown kids do even when I think they are making poor choices. I CAN control letting go and realizing that they have to learn from their mistakes just like I did.
I am sometimes known as a control freak within my family. I admit I do like to be in control and so the fact that I have seldom in my life been in control of such a simple thing as what I put in mouth has always been very hard for me to deal with! May I keep learning other ways to cope as I continue this journey!
Stress happens! But I can find another way to handle that stress other than eating it. 1x1=1, 1x2=2, ....
I can't control whether my body wants to cooperate in losing these lbs I've gained since November. But I CAN control logging everything I put in my mouth, taking all my vitamins, getting in exercise, and not buying foods that trigger my binge monster.
I can't control what my grown kids do even when I think they are making poor choices. I CAN control letting go and realizing that they have to learn from their mistakes just like I did.
I am sometimes known as a control freak within my family. I admit I do like to be in control and so the fact that I have seldom in my life been in control of such a simple thing as what I put in mouth has always been very hard for me to deal with! May I keep learning other ways to cope as I continue this journey!
A couple of friends and I are driving to Virgina and leaving Wednesday. They are sister-in-laws and sometimes get along and sometimes don't. We are going to be two days on the road to get there. Two days with family and two days coming back. It could be a good time, it could be a bad time.
I can control the ambience by bringing the MP3 player and not listening to them bicker.
I can chose to not let them affect my mood/food intake, by taking my medicine faithfully and walking when we stop which will be often as one has a miniscule bladder.
I can control my emotions and have a good time no matter what. (Man I hope that works).
Good luck/control to you all this week.
I can control the ambience by bringing the MP3 player and not listening to them bicker.
I can chose to not let them affect my mood/food intake, by taking my medicine faithfully and walking when we stop which will be often as one has a miniscule bladder.
I can control my emotions and have a good time no matter what. (Man I hope that works).
Good luck/control to you all this week.
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