Thin now (well, sort of) but still going to see "Wicked " alone

This would have fit in nicely with Nik's post from a few days ago about what WLS will NOT do for you. A friend of mine who would occasionally go with me to theater events is no longer around and I ended the romantic relationship I had been in about a year after my RNY. Tickets went on sale this morning for "Wicked", which will be in town in June. I bought one ticket. The last show I went to, I ended up buying two tickets because I really wanted to go, but then ended up taking a friend as my treat because I knew she couldn't afford to go. Instead of doing the same for this show, I just bought one ticket so I knew that I would at least be able to see the show. How depressing that I cannot find a single person who wanted to see such a critically acclaimed show with me.

So, I may be normal sized (even if not what I, personally, consider "thin") and maintaining that weight, but I am still going to see the show by myself.

Lora

Sorry you have to go by yourself :-(  but......You are going to love Wicked!  I saw it last year and absolutely loved it and I'm seeing it again on Wednesday, I can't wait! 

Good for you for buying yourself a ticket though! 

 Good for you going alone!  I saw it at the Orpheum in San Francisco and barely squeezed in the seats, show was so good it made me forget! 

I think one of the most important lessons in life is to learn that one can't escape one's self. Ultimately, relationships, and everything else that people think will magically get better with becoming thin, are often just not dependent on weight. I'm not telling YOU anything you don't know of course.

When I was a child, I was very unhappy. I wanted to move so badly. I thought that I could just press "reset" on my life if I moved somewhere new, and that everything would be peachy keen. We never moved, and later events sort of made me realize that the key component in MY life, was the "me" inside, and that wasn't EVER going to change just through a change of venue. The only way to change my situation, was to change the inner person. And with those beautiful inner changes, outer changes will take place as well.

I think that for myself, I'd been through that particular situation enough in my life to have overcome that sensation of "if I was thin..." that is so alluring, and yet in many ways so false... if the change is something other than physical of course.

My step-kids' mom is a big one for "change of venue".... whenever the kids had problems, it was always her solution to ship the kids out to us... not solving the deeper issue, just fobbing it off onto us. That worked, in its way, with his middle child. His youngest discovered, VERY quickly, that living as a latch-key kid was actually better than living in a house with two teachers. He didn't last a week with us before he decided to go back home to his mom.

For me, I think I had the biggest epiphany when I herniated the disks in my back. I came to realize how small the problem of being alone and lonely was compared with the inability, or ability, to walk. I was humbled by my physical situation (unable to walk, no family who cared to help me).... when I regained the ability to walk, I no longer carried the "I'm a fat person so nobody loves me" chip around on my shoulder. I became content with the person I was, and I came to care for myself a LOT more than I used to. To me finding hubby on the tails of that epiphany was a natural progression, for me. Of course, it helped that hubby was in the right place at the right time. I think that helped.

One thing I like about you Lora, is that you have always seemed to have a strong sense of SELF, and I think that gives you a great power. Yes, you're going alone, but you're not sitting at home weeping over having nobody, you're going to go out there and pursue pleasure.

Yes, I do know all of that, of course, and I definitely prefer going alone than to not going at all.  It just still makes me sad.  As I think about it, I think that part of it is not even so much having the friend move or having kicked the guy to the curb (LOL), but maybe more just one of those faint shadows of grief at no longer having my partner (who died in an auto accident a number of years ago)).  Yeah, definitely.  Sometimes those things sneak up on me and it takes me a while to realize that it is related.

Lora

Indeed. I think that the separation of death, particularly unexpected and unplanned for, can profoundly affect us for years, if not life. Every now and again, I pause and miss my brother. He died when I was 15 and he was 13. I feel a deep aching loss that I never got to know him as an adult. That the man he promised to be never came true. Losing in such a way, so sudden, so unexpected.... it's hard to reconcile. I knew for several years that my mum was dying, and yet I still feel the aching pain of not having her here to discuss things with. It's been four years since she died, but in some things, the pain is acute.

Hubby and I are pretty awesome together. 95% of the time we have the BEST relationship. But 5% of the time, I wonder if he's worth it. Being a math teacher, I analyze the pros and cons, and every time the "keep him" column wins out over the "dump him" column, because even though we have a few rocky moments now and again, what we have is pretty awesome. I also realize, though, how precarious his health is, how easily he could be taken from me by ill health. I don't think about it much, but it's hard to ignore the fact that he is 56 years old, 300 lbs, with high blood pressure, high cholesterol, COPD, pre-diabetic and now he also has heart problems. He's a ticking time bomb,  and I know that some day I might not have him with me. I don't know how I will ever be able to stand that, I don't know how anyone could. I can't imagine ever jumping back into the dating scene.

Sorry you have to go alone, but you are going to love the show! I've seen it in London and NYC and I'd see it again. Enjoy yourself!

I'd go with you.  I LOVE Wicked!!!

Anyway, hope you enjoy the show.  Whenever I go to a show I make friends with the people sitting next to me before the show starts.  :)

I say GOOD FOR YOU!! I know it kinda stinks but you are going to have an amazing time watching a fabulous show. You are strong & independant and that is AWESOME to me!

I got to see Wicked in Columbus,OH a year or two ago.  It is just awesome.  You will be so taken with the musical you won't even notice you are alone.  I was enthralled the whole time I went to see the show.