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Massage, with someone who is sensitive to my history and my potential triggers (and is always willing to honor my requests to avoid a certain area or avoid a certain type of technique on any given day) has also been really important for dealing with my PTSD. I had to go through 3 different LMTs before connecting with him, though (a therapist friend of mine recommended him). I love that he has also been willing to do certain things outside of what he wuld normally do in order to help me deal with specific triggers or body-memory issues (like tolerating having someone (gently) hold both of my hands/wrists (or ankles) at the same time).
Lora
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
Finding the right person to work with is magical, isn't it? It makes the pain and fear and sadness and shame and guilt bearable. They gave me the sense of being able to actually manage myself.
I will be forever grateful to those people in my life. They have been true healers, and have made all the difference for me.
Of course I could have paid for my getting a PhD with what I have spent on my healing, but one has to make choices.
I will be forever grateful to those people in my life. They have been true healers, and have made all the difference for me.
Of course I could have paid for my getting a PhD with what I have spent on my healing, but one has to make choices.
"What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls the butterfly." Richard Bach
"Support fosters your growth. If you are getting enough of the right support, you will experience a major transformation in yourself. You will discover a sense of empowerment and peace you have never before experienced. You will come to believe you can overcome your challenges and find some joy in this world." Katie Jay
My worst experience was with my old GYN.
I was sexually abused from age 3-15, then raped at 23 and stayed in that 'relationship' with sexual violence for 3 years. Going to the GYN was not on my "how to have a good day list". i only went every 3-4yrs with problems.
My counselor called the GYN before my visit to talk to them but they had him send a fax instead. When I got to my 1040appt I wasn't seen until 1. The doc rushed in and did the yearly exam, then said I had to have an ultrasound. He held up the wand and said "do you know what I am going to do with this?" .... I freaked out and shut down. He rushed it, was rough - I started shedding tears and the nurse said it wouldn't hurt long. She was clueless even though my counselor had called.
Then the doc said I needed a biopsy and he could do it then. He did the biopsy (single most physically painful experience of my life) and AFTER he rushed out of the room, the nurse brought me a consent to surgery form.
When I stumbled across the parking lot, I broke down sobbing... and had to dodge teh doc peeling out of his parking space going to lunch.
Even though he'd told me I had 8x normal chance of developing endometrial cancer, I didn't go back for 4 years ( to a new and wonderful doc)
I was sexually abused from age 3-15, then raped at 23 and stayed in that 'relationship' with sexual violence for 3 years. Going to the GYN was not on my "how to have a good day list". i only went every 3-4yrs with problems.
My counselor called the GYN before my visit to talk to them but they had him send a fax instead. When I got to my 1040appt I wasn't seen until 1. The doc rushed in and did the yearly exam, then said I had to have an ultrasound. He held up the wand and said "do you know what I am going to do with this?" .... I freaked out and shut down. He rushed it, was rough - I started shedding tears and the nurse said it wouldn't hurt long. She was clueless even though my counselor had called.
Then the doc said I needed a biopsy and he could do it then. He did the biopsy (single most physically painful experience of my life) and AFTER he rushed out of the room, the nurse brought me a consent to surgery form.
When I stumbled across the parking lot, I broke down sobbing... and had to dodge teh doc peeling out of his parking space going to lunch.
Even though he'd told me I had 8x normal chance of developing endometrial cancer, I didn't go back for 4 years ( to a new and wonderful doc)
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