Now that the early excitement is over I am left feeling depressed

Tomorrow I will be 12 week out. up until now it has been very exciting and fun for the most part. Recently I am feeling so depressed about everything, not just the weight loss and loss of my friend "food". I am depressed because of my financial situation, my job that I honestly hate. Just depressed about my life in general.

I think it is time for me to go see a psych. I haven't gone except for my surgery clearance. I need some help. Meds? Yes. Someone to help me sort my feelings? Yes. I need it all.

I think we all get this way. I know I have and still do from time today. Even this morning I was. Each day is going to be different. The hardest part of all of this is that we can't turn to what used to comfort us...the food. I have to force myself do something else to keep my mind busy. I've gone for walks, watched videos on youtube...just stupid stuff, started scrapbooking again. It is definitely hard, no one will tell you it's easy. Days or even weeks like this we have to push forward and know that in the end and probably already, this has paid off. Good luck and if you ever wanna talk you can add me on FB or something. It's iowa_missie74@yahoo on FB.

I had the same problem right at the same time. At 3 months...my hunger had come back...at what seemed to me as full force. I was hungry, losing slower than I had expected and could eat anything I wanted.

I got deep into it for a week or two before I made myself get up and use my tool again. I was blessed to have this surgery paid for by my insurance. I was blessed to come out of it with NO complications and I wasn't sick every time I tried to eat like some people. Thats when I started using these boards to help me find little actions that would make this do-able for me. I took eating every two hours from one succesful person....drinking the last half hour non stop to get my liquids in....lifting 5 lb arm weights at my desk from another person...these little things helped me form a routine and helped me feel better. New clothes...in 3 weeks, I start a new job...I know the other changes lead me to look for the recent ones.

You can do this. You had the drive and determination to help yourself...you made one of the hardest decisions and were brave enough to follow thru. You can work thru this! You should be proud to see right away that you need help.

Wishing the best for you and hoping things brighten up!

From what I've heard/read (I haven't had a surgery, yet) that on top of the "general" feelings involved in the process... your hormones go through a MAJOR change.  I'm not sure if you have children, but I can kind of relate with the hormone thing.  After you give birth, then breast feed.. your hormones are out of whack.  I'm sure you are experiencing some of the hormone shift.  I remember never really knowing what mood I would wake up in... Kind of like having PMS, just all the time :(

But give yourself a break girl!!!!  You've been through a LOT.  This is a big change, mentally and physically.  Don't feel bad about how you feel, just own your feelings and take it one minute at a time.  Come on here, maybe join a wls support group and yes go see a psych doc.  Maybe you just need a little something to get you by druring this period until your hormones even out and you wrap your brain around this journey. 

You got this though.  One thing at a time. HUGS.

 It sounds like counseling, and perhaps some anti-depressant medication would be very helpful.  

Just as a "heads up", for down the road, many people also find that they have a bit of a let down, or some mild depression, once they get to their goal weight and start maintenance.  The excitement of losing weight and chasing that goal weight is gone, the positive reinforcement of the scale moving is gone, but you still have to keep doing the same things you have been doing for so many months... but there is no "reward" other than NOT regaining.

That is one of the reasons that many of us who are several years out try to emphasize the need for changing the eating habits for the sake of being healthier (rather than for the sake of losing weight) and dumping the "diet" mentality... If you get to your goal and still have that diet mentality, you are also likely to want to drop the new way of eating (the "diet" is done, after all, since you are at goal weight), but if you do, weight gain is sure to follow soon after.

Lora

Awwww honey!    I know....we all feel like that sometimes. Seeing a therapist could probably help.  My advice is...one thing at a time.  First focus on your new lifestyle. Then think about whether or not you can live with your current job. If not...then what other job prospects are available?  I am in the same boat but I can only manage one thing at a time.  For me...first the weight loss then the job situation. With a better job the finances will improve.  In the meanwhile I am going to tell myself that I work so I can live...not live to work.  Hope that helps.