Would you have ignored this woman, too, or am I being a b*tch?

No, you were not being a ***** for not wanting to talk to her. My therapist would say that was putting healthy boundaries up and protecting yourself from a negative conversation with someone who made you feel bad about yourself in the past. The fact this woman is toxic is reflected by the fact she was offended you tried to ignore her. She saw nothing wrong with how she treated you in the past even though she clearly hurt you. I would have done the same thing as you and maybe would have even said "Please don't talk to me." and walked away. You owe her nothing. She sounds like an energy vampire. Good for you for recognizing the negative way she responded to your surgery and acknowledging how she made you feel!

Not b_tchy at all - I would have done the same thing as you and not wanted to acknowledge her. People like that are toxic. I have had a lot of people drop out of my life since my surgery - some were not supportive preop, and I think some may now not like that I am no longer their "fat friend". Some people are so insecure about themselves they have to project onto others - but being a therapist yourself I know you already know that :)

If you were being a ***** then I must be one, too... because there's no way in hell I would have engaged in any sort of polite discourse with her.  Must better to just smirk at her lameness and walk away... don't need her toxicity affecting you to any greater degree than it already is!

Hope yu stuck your tongue out at her back at the very least though, lol...



tori