What Whitney Houston's death can teach us about the RNY board on OH
I agree. Other than occasional, isolated incidents -- we all get frustrated sometimes or say things that come out more brusque than we intended -- no one who is here (for very long, anyway) is here for any reason other than to help others through this journey. What would be the point?!? Giving help means being honest. Accepting help means being open to that honesty and being willing to set aside emotions (often difficult during the initial post-op flood of hormones) and the limitations and difficulties of online communication and asuming that everyone who took the time to respond did do with good intentions.
Some people may not like the straightforwardness that I learned from my father (a Marine), and I do try to temper it (sometimes more successfully than others), but no one -- including my counsling clients -- will ever be able to accuse me of not being honest about what I see happening or potentially happening.
My brother, who was 3 years younger than I am, died from a drug overdose. Only my other brother had any idea he was using again, but he said nothing. Michael Jackson would also likely be alive if he had people around him who were willing to be honest rather than bow to the money and fame and be "yes" men.
Lora
Some people may not like the straightforwardness that I learned from my father (a Marine), and I do try to temper it (sometimes more successfully than others), but no one -- including my counsling clients -- will ever be able to accuse me of not being honest about what I see happening or potentially happening.
My brother, who was 3 years younger than I am, died from a drug overdose. Only my other brother had any idea he was using again, but he said nothing. Michael Jackson would also likely be alive if he had people around him who were willing to be honest rather than bow to the money and fame and be "yes" men.
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
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Nik, very insightful and i appreciate this post. It's difficult to recieve creative feedback - good and bad. In fact I invite you to knock on my door more than once if i don't see the light. My decision just like all of you on this forum to have WLS is a serious life long committment and not only will I need support from my family and friends, but it will require me to be honest with myself and i must be willing to hear your words and heed to warnings. Sure consult my Dr. as needed.... but I feel this forum is a team... my team... that will cheer me on as I succeed and encourage me when i fall back a few steps... My RNY is scheduled for 2/28 and my liquid diet starts 2/21 and i'm ready for this new journey... and look forward growing personally as WLS changes my life. Just my thoughts...
The brutal honesty on this board is what keeps me coming back. My journey wouldn't be as successful without the advice that I've gleaned from these web-pages. I'm continually baffled by the folks who aren't following program, know they are doing something that is inhibiting weight loss, and then come here looking for sage council. Then they get their panties in a bunch when they are given good, honest, and straight forward advice from our most knowledgeable members. I guess it's human nature to want to hear that you aren't the only one, and that things will turn out fine. Unfortunately, that isn't real, and if there is one thing I can say about the RNY board, is that it keeps it real.
HW: 418 SW: 386 CW: 225 GW: 210 
In my nursing career I have run across some people who have never heard the word "no". What miserable people they were. They were beyond rich, some famous but miserable! I would never want to be in that position. I think it's poison to your soul.
I try to always be honest here. I am personally very anti alcohol..particularly the first year. I post pretty frequently the reasons why I think people shouldn't drink. That's gotten me a few.."you are so mean!"
Whitney was the same age as my wife. She had years of life ahead of her that is wasted. I'm sad for that waste.
Deb T.
I try to always be honest here. I am personally very anti alcohol..particularly the first year. I post pretty frequently the reasons why I think people shouldn't drink. That's gotten me a few.."you are so mean!"
Whitney was the same age as my wife. She had years of life ahead of her that is wasted. I'm sad for that waste.
Deb T.
Great post, Nik! And I would just like to add that while it is tempting to block someone because they pissed you off - you might be missing out on some real pearls of wisdom further on down the line.
Of course if someone is stalking your every post, sending you threatening e-mails or they really do just get on your last nerve EVERY time they post, then block them - but just because you have a disagreement about one subject, breathe a bit, sit back, reconsider and then make your decision.
None of us feel comfortable having our opinions or actions questioned - especially if we are convinced we are right! But sometimes if we let our blood come off the boil at the "how dare they's", we might actually realise that they do have more knowledge or experience and maybe looking at it from someone else's perspective gives us a "light bulb" insight we wouldn't have got if we were still galloping up on that high horse!
Of course if someone is stalking your every post, sending you threatening e-mails or they really do just get on your last nerve EVERY time they post, then block them - but just because you have a disagreement about one subject, breathe a bit, sit back, reconsider and then make your decision.
None of us feel comfortable having our opinions or actions questioned - especially if we are convinced we are right! But sometimes if we let our blood come off the boil at the "how dare they's", we might actually realise that they do have more knowledge or experience and maybe looking at it from someone else's perspective gives us a "light bulb" insight we wouldn't have got if we were still galloping up on that high horse!
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