Random Poll: What is your deepest, darkest fear about WLS or WLS-lifestyle?
On the fat and bald. I don't know if you know this but I have very little hair of my own. I don't know how many pics of me you've seen but I think the last thing most people would think of me in a pic is that I am bald.
In short, the amount of hair you have is ONLY limited by the amount of money you have to purchase it ;)
In short, the amount of hair you have is ONLY limited by the amount of money you have to purchase it ;)
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My deepest, darkest, irrational and somewhat codependent fear?
I worry I'll lose all my friends, and my husband will resent me.
In a world where men fight to dominate, but women fight to eliminate, sisterhood among women can be difficult to achieve. I am very fortunate to have a good circle of female friends who, as far as I know, all love each other without snark. We've seen each other at our worsts and still think of each other as family.
However, I can't get over this...persona I've built for myself. When people find out I'm a pastry artist for a living, I always joke, "Yep! After all, that's how I keep my figure!" when, in reality, I very rarely eat my own products because I get a little tired of it day after day, making it for everyone else. Even though, inside, I'm fairly calm and confident, I tend to externally portray this jolly, bubbly, somewhat self-deprecating fat-girl persona, and I'm afraid that if my new lifestyle erases that image (which it will, to a large extent), my friends and loved ones won't like whatever they find underneath, whatever it may be. Or they won't know how to relate anymore, and they'll bail.
And as for my husband, who has always struggled both with his weight and also with insecurity issues, I'm afraid he's going to become a paranoid, jealous nitwit and we'll begin to seriously resent one another. Not because I think I'm going to be so hot and have guys falling at me or anything, but just because by the time he returns home at the end of the year, I will (hopefully) have accomplished something he hasn't managed to do yet, and he's terribly, terribly competitive. It will be good for him physically, having someone one the same path as where he needs to be. But emotionally? I'm not so sure.
I worry I'll lose all my friends, and my husband will resent me.
In a world where men fight to dominate, but women fight to eliminate, sisterhood among women can be difficult to achieve. I am very fortunate to have a good circle of female friends who, as far as I know, all love each other without snark. We've seen each other at our worsts and still think of each other as family.
However, I can't get over this...persona I've built for myself. When people find out I'm a pastry artist for a living, I always joke, "Yep! After all, that's how I keep my figure!" when, in reality, I very rarely eat my own products because I get a little tired of it day after day, making it for everyone else. Even though, inside, I'm fairly calm and confident, I tend to externally portray this jolly, bubbly, somewhat self-deprecating fat-girl persona, and I'm afraid that if my new lifestyle erases that image (which it will, to a large extent), my friends and loved ones won't like whatever they find underneath, whatever it may be. Or they won't know how to relate anymore, and they'll bail.
And as for my husband, who has always struggled both with his weight and also with insecurity issues, I'm afraid he's going to become a paranoid, jealous nitwit and we'll begin to seriously resent one another. Not because I think I'm going to be so hot and have guys falling at me or anything, but just because by the time he returns home at the end of the year, I will (hopefully) have accomplished something he hasn't managed to do yet, and he's terribly, terribly competitive. It will be good for him physically, having someone one the same path as where he needs to be. But emotionally? I'm not so sure.
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Highest weight: 269. Surgery weight: 233. Goal weight: 144, and then we'll see..
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Highest weight: 269. Surgery weight: 233. Goal weight: 144, and then we'll see..
kidnamedtoad
on 2/8/12 1:44 pm
on 2/8/12 1:44 pm
My biggest fear is that the surgery isn't going to work and I'm not going to lose enough. I have days where I think I'm losing and days where I don't.
Part of this stems from the fact that I can eat wayyy more than I should be able to. I portion control myself but I should feel full from that but don't. I get hungry and its not head hunger. I'm already eating between 1000-1400 a day and I'm only 2 months out. What if I don't lose? If this works its totally worth it! If it doesn't than it completely sucks to have to plan and prepare every freaking thing you put your mouth. Every damn day I prepare my shake for breakfast. Every night I refill my vitamin container and prepare my lunch. I miss being able to run thru a drive thru and not having to plan and shop and prepare all the time.
Part of this stems from the fact that I can eat wayyy more than I should be able to. I portion control myself but I should feel full from that but don't. I get hungry and its not head hunger. I'm already eating between 1000-1400 a day and I'm only 2 months out. What if I don't lose? If this works its totally worth it! If it doesn't than it completely sucks to have to plan and prepare every freaking thing you put your mouth. Every damn day I prepare my shake for breakfast. Every night I refill my vitamin container and prepare my lunch. I miss being able to run thru a drive thru and not having to plan and shop and prepare all the time.
Toad Starting weight: 249 Day of surgery wt: 217 GW: 109 CW 149 
My biggest fear is malnutrition and vitamin deficiencies. As an OR nurse I never feared the surgery or it's complications. I never feared NOT losing the weight, and I do not fear regain. I've reached my goal and I know how to stop it from backsliding.
I don't like the inability to control how my body absorbs vitamins and minerals and the risk for deficiencies. If I could get labs monthly to adjust my intake levels, I would. I'm a nurse, I'm THAT anal about them. I think i anything from this surgery were to shorten my lifespan it would be that.
I don't like the inability to control how my body absorbs vitamins and minerals and the risk for deficiencies. If I could get labs monthly to adjust my intake levels, I would. I'm a nurse, I'm THAT anal about them. I think i anything from this surgery were to shorten my lifespan it would be that.
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Since 2008 my team has raised over $42,000 to fight breast cancer.
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