it is more important to be healthy I think we all know that and want that. But after being obese for so long it is so easy to get caught up in the HOLY **** I am skinny thinking. It is easy I think newly pre-op to get cuaght in all that but as you go along in this journey you do learn that health is so much more important. I think that is why you see all the vets talking health vs newbs posting about sizes and numbers. Its all part of the journey. Just one of the stages I think...well at least for me.

True...and some of us graduate from that thinking and some of us...do not.

My larger point was, though, that if your motivation is entirely dependent on your losses, you have a problem. Because the scale will stall. you need something bigger to hold onto to push through those times. This is coming from a place of having "intervened" in several post-op friends lives *****verted back to old ways.

I have one friend who, upon stalling for three weeks, started eating NOTHING but sugar. I went to her house and cleared it all out (my local food pantry got a sugary windfall), but if you are only motivated by the downward tumble of the scale, your foundation ain't right. Work on THAT and you've got what you need to survive the long haul.

I am only 3 months out and have had stalls of a couples weeks at a time......and I am of course happy when the stall is over. Because hey I'm human and love the gratification of losing but my mentality from the beginning is that this is a life change and I have to keep the larger picture in view at ALL times.
Someone said the other day "don't trade what you want most for what you want at the moment" and I have that post it up to remind me that this is not a "moment" venture. I think when people go back to old habits they have not addressed the reasons for those habits.....because stalling is uncomfortable and food was always a comfort.
just my thoughts as a newbie.