I am capable of eating much more than I actually do eat...

My beloved...

Don't take this the wrong way.

You had surgery four months ago. I had surgery four YEARS ago. One might expect that you'd feel the way you do. Give yourself a break. This is a process. When I was where you are sitting I felt the same way. You change along this road. Some of the changes can be scary but if you walk with the heart of a person willing to learn and embrace even the ugliest parts of this process, those scary moments can be quite liberating.

In many ways I needed the scary aspects and I still live with some of them. I dump, so I don't eat sugar or fried foods. I get food stuck easily so I chew well and take my time eating. I feed my body excellent food. I just happen to able to eat a good bit of that excellent food.

But like I said...I don't wanna most days. And on the days that I do...thats what protein shakes and carrot sticks are for. ;)

Seriously though...you are at the stage where you are. It's important to go through. Your feelings are valid and essential to your long term success so it's okay!

Thanks, Nik

 This is a great post!!!  My belly says " I WANT!!" and I am trying so hard to listen to what my body actually needs, which is practically nothing.  I am appalled at the quantity of food I have been taking in in the past twenty years.   I only hope that after I get my surgery I won't have the physical sensation of hunger so frequently.  I will not trade what I really want (healthy body) for what I want right now!! (reeses cup)

 I can eat toast all day. Most days I don't.
Deb T.

Im just one week out and still on full liquids.  I have only had two cravings when a commercial came on. I was not hungry just wanted.

One was for pizza Hut pan pizza crust and the other for Red Lobster cheddar biscuits.

THank goodness the cravings didn't last long but they do tell me I am still a carb addict at heart and I will have to work hard to change this.

Thanks Nik! I needed to hear this tonight. I am finally hitting a plateau and after such a rapid weight loss, began New Year's and ended tonight seeing if I could eat cookies and drink soda. I found out I can, with much discomfort, but now realize that's what brough me here in the first place and I don't want to go back. I feel like a 2 year old, stamping her feet on the floor wanting a damn cookie. Yeah, I can eat one but it doesn't pack the same punch it used to and now that I can only eat so much, I don't want to waste the space to cookies! I feel like I have been given this gift and I have no idea on how to use it. I did go for a walk today and the soda is now down the drain... I also appreciate the last post as I know I have much to learn. I am very glad to have this forum!

Thanks...I needed that reinforcement.  That HEAD battle is where I am still working...that need to see the plate covered.  I hate that I still struggle with that.  I am going back to using a smaller plate again in order to help myself visually.

Here is where the whole "surgery is not the easy way out" concept comes into play.

I can eat ALL DAY LONG if I wanted to.  I could eat a second or third meal a half hour to an hour after I eat my lunch or dinner.  I can.  I probably have a time or two during head hunger days.

It doesn't mean I should or do the majority of the time.  That's what we have to work on once we hits a certain length of time after surgery.  Can does not mean should.

Good post.

I really needed to read this tonite. I have been struggling with this for the past few months now.  I have decided to go back to how I was eating my first year after surgery.  I am committed to using my tool and making decisions with my Head!  Thanks so much for this post!!!!