OT - people that won't go to the doctor
My partner is driving me nuts! Why, you ask? Well, I'd love to tell you all about it.
He is on medication for depression. Which works pretty well. Last month he say his psychiatrist and she wrote him an order for some labs. One is to check his thyroid, which he had checked about three years ago and it was fine then, but that was a while ago. I forget what the others are.
I think he needs labs done, and think he should ask for an order for B12, too, because he is tired all the time now. But he doesn't want to get the labs done because he says we can't afford it. I pointed out that if he went to the hospital to get them drawn, they will work out a payment plan for him. But he does not want to have another bill each month.
No, he would rather just be tired all the time. And I say I'm tired all the time, but he is sleeping a lot more than I am. He works, usually eight hours a day, and it takes five minutes to drive to work or drive home. As soon as he gets home, he either goes to lie down in bed for a while or else falls asleep on the couch. I wake him up for dinner and then he might stay up to watch TV for a while or he might sleep on the couch some more. He goes to bed by 9:00, often closer to 8:00. And sometimes he is sleeping on the couch and I have to wake him up to go to bed.
I feel like I never see him. We never get to spend time together. Plus, something has to be wrong for someone to sleep that much. But go to the doctor? Get labs done? Oh, no, he won't do that.
He is on medication for depression. Which works pretty well. Last month he say his psychiatrist and she wrote him an order for some labs. One is to check his thyroid, which he had checked about three years ago and it was fine then, but that was a while ago. I forget what the others are.
I think he needs labs done, and think he should ask for an order for B12, too, because he is tired all the time now. But he doesn't want to get the labs done because he says we can't afford it. I pointed out that if he went to the hospital to get them drawn, they will work out a payment plan for him. But he does not want to have another bill each month.
No, he would rather just be tired all the time. And I say I'm tired all the time, but he is sleeping a lot more than I am. He works, usually eight hours a day, and it takes five minutes to drive to work or drive home. As soon as he gets home, he either goes to lie down in bed for a while or else falls asleep on the couch. I wake him up for dinner and then he might stay up to watch TV for a while or he might sleep on the couch some more. He goes to bed by 9:00, often closer to 8:00. And sometimes he is sleeping on the couch and I have to wake him up to go to bed.
I feel like I never see him. We never get to spend time together. Plus, something has to be wrong for someone to sleep that much. But go to the doctor? Get labs done? Oh, no, he won't do that.
Kelly
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My boyfriend is the same way. He hates going to the doctor. He has a high deductible so his insurance premiums will be lower so he pretty much has to pay out of pocket for any visit or test and he doesn't want to if he doesn't have to.
One time one of his workers called into work sick with a stomach ache. This guy is always calling in so he was a little ticked off. He was doing something like pouring concrete that day and his stomach started bothering him and he figured he got what the other guy had and could see why the guy called in.
He kept working, more and more in pain, until the job was done and he couldn't stand any more and then had his son take him to the ER. He had a ruptured apendix. They rushed him into surgery right there. Another hour and he might not have made it.
For the last two weeks he has been in pain and limping because of a work injury (he owns a dairy and a cow kicked him). He just says "It's getting better" whenever I mention it. He just figures there is nothing they can do about it anyway so why waste the money?
One time one of his workers called into work sick with a stomach ache. This guy is always calling in so he was a little ticked off. He was doing something like pouring concrete that day and his stomach started bothering him and he figured he got what the other guy had and could see why the guy called in.
He kept working, more and more in pain, until the job was done and he couldn't stand any more and then had his son take him to the ER. He had a ruptured apendix. They rushed him into surgery right there. Another hour and he might not have made it.
For the last two weeks he has been in pain and limping because of a work injury (he owns a dairy and a cow kicked him). He just says "It's getting better" whenever I mention it. He just figures there is nothing they can do about it anyway so why waste the money?
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well your guy sounds like my hubby did a few years ago... and he got some blood work done and he had very, VERY low T...low testerone,and they put him on some cream, but did not raise it much so they put him on injections, and now he is much better, and has alot more energy then i have ever seen him have before...i think he as low for a very long time and just did not have it checked, he got a new dr when he retired from the military and got a dr down town, and they did a full set of blood work and this came back....so have him get his testerone chcked along with his other blood work IF you can get him to the dr in the first place..not sure why guys have a hard time going to the dr...but anyhow, just a thought,
have a great day
debby
have a great day
debby
On December 9, 2011 at 4:19 PM Pacific Time, grmadeb01 wrote:
well your guy sounds like my hubby did a few years ago... and he got some blood work done and he had very, VERY low T...low testerone,and they put him on some cream, but did not raise it much so they put him on injections, and now he is much better, and has alot more energy then i have ever seen him have before...i think he as low for a very long time and just did not have it checked, he got a new dr when he retired from the military and got a dr down town, and they did a full set of blood work and this came back....so have him get his testerone chcked along with his other blood work IF you can get him to the dr in the first place..not sure why guys have a hard time going to the dr...but anyhow, just a thought,have a great day
debby
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My ex-husband was the same way. He was severely overweight, had sleep apnea so bad he would practically suffocate at night to get air. He refused to get it treated, even after going to doctor for a check up (he only did the check up because he was convinced he wasn't overweight at 5'7 and 280 pounds). Some time later he had gotten a hernia, changed jobs, and the pain with the hernia progressively got worse (it was the same size as the indendation in the bottom of a soda can). I finally forced him into the emergency room. Turns out the hernia had strangulated and the doctor said a couple of more days and he would have died because he had the onset of gangreen.
I just thought all men were stinking stubborn. My uncle does the same thing. Refuses to go to the doctor, and he's 70..overweight and we think bipolar.
Sorry you have to go through this Kelly.
I just thought all men were stinking stubborn. My uncle does the same thing. Refuses to go to the doctor, and he's 70..overweight and we think bipolar.
Sorry you have to go through this Kelly.
Too bad you couldn't take blood on him while he's asleep.... sometimes ignorance can be bliss! (ha ha, just kidding). Men are such babies! I'm not surprised about the psychiatrist ordering thyroid functioning though - increased depression and sleeping like crazy are common for underacting thyroid. Hopefully they discover what it really is and get him treated, you can get your partner back!
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I don't think the depression has increased, though, unless sleeping a lot is the only symptom of it. In the past when he's been real depressed, he's had lots of negative stuff to say, he's wanted to medicate with junk food and eaten an amazing amount of candy bars, he's gone for days without bathing until I practically make him get in the tub, stuff like that. None of that stuff is happening now. It's just sleeping.
But yeah, checking the thyroid makes sense. He thinks since it was normal three years ago, he doesn't need it checked now.
But yeah, checking the thyroid makes sense. He thinks since it was normal three years ago, he doesn't need it checked now.
Kelly
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
i'm that way with sleep, when i'm not on an insomniatic kick (it seems to be one or the other for me), yet all my labs keep coming back fine and they can't find anything. apparently my body just wants that much sleep. like yesterday, i woke up around 7:30 and left for school around 8:30. had my classes around 3. walked to k-mart and did some shopping then headed home and got back to my apartment probably around 4:45. by 5:30 i was knocked out and woke up to my mom calling me around 6:30, fell back asleep around 7 and slept til 8:30. then fell asleep around 11:30 until 11:30 this morning. i've been up since then but i feel like i'm ready to go to bed now, but i want to get a little more of my paper done (obviously i'm doing so much of that here lol)
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Kelly
Being someone who does suffer depression I can tell you that YES it can involve a lot of sleeping. Ask him what is more important the money or his health. If there is another underlying problem and it gets out of hand then that bill will end up being much bigger than one from blood draws. Men do not like going to the drs' for the most part and wont go unless they are either dying or in severe pain. Turn the tables on him and somehow make him think it is his idea that he goes.
As for it seeming no time together is being spent I am right there with you. Only thing is it is me working when he has off and vice versa. We do however slip a few in each day even if it is cuddling to watch a 1/2 hour show or something.
I can not give you any more than this so if it doesnt help I apologize, if it does then great.
B
Being someone who does suffer depression I can tell you that YES it can involve a lot of sleeping. Ask him what is more important the money or his health. If there is another underlying problem and it gets out of hand then that bill will end up being much bigger than one from blood draws. Men do not like going to the drs' for the most part and wont go unless they are either dying or in severe pain. Turn the tables on him and somehow make him think it is his idea that he goes.
As for it seeming no time together is being spent I am right there with you. Only thing is it is me working when he has off and vice versa. We do however slip a few in each day even if it is cuddling to watch a 1/2 hour show or something.
I can not give you any more than this so if it doesnt help I apologize, if it does then great.
B
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