A collection of thoughts: "I want you to be in this with me"

Although my surgery isn't until 12/5 , I am already  waiting for a couple members of my family to take on the role of "FOOD POLICE"......When I first told my family my decision to have wls and the reasons, there were mixed opinions.  OMG what about the picnics, Thanksgiving, Christmas baking, Christmas eve etc.  I replied we will still have our gatherings, I am making this change not you, it is my choice not yours and isn't it sad that all of our gathering are based around a menu???!!!

I am still alittle irratated that one person feel the need to make decisions for me...ex. we're not baking this year it would just be too hard for you ( we bake at MY house shouldn't that be MY decision?)   I also asked her not to be the food police afterwards and she replied and don't you  be the food police with me either (snarky).  Anyway I'm rambling, I know I have the motavation to do this for myself and I'm sure my DH will benefit from it also, as far as anyone else????? its not about 'you', sorry if your life will change because of my choice....Deal with it!!!

 Grrr.. tell them to lay off and enjoy your baking!!  I baked cookies and biscotti 3 weeks post-op and didn't even lick my fingers once!  I love baking and didn't plan on changing that with my surgery.

well Nik, i pray for you and your family, its tough with family, no matter what the situations are...BUT it is what it is....as my brother says, "YOU CAN'T FIX STUPID" so all i can say is...pray before you have your chat with your family, tell them they can join you in your new lifstyle or you will go on with out them...just remember you have LOTS of family here, and sometimes family is the family that you choose to make...not the ones you were born into,that can mean the most to you... i have some family i choose to not be around much, it is what it is..cant change them, i can only do what i can do and be happy with me and where i am at...just pray and ask GOD to give you the words to say to them, in order for them to HEAR what you NEED to say...and then ask him for the strength to move on with what you have to do for YOU with or without them, one day at a time, one meal at a time, one family member at a time...
just remember you have lots of family here, even tho we are miles apart..
have a great day
debby

I don't have much family anymore parents, grandparents, sister are all gone.  I have a cousin who has been after me for years to lose the weight while complaining if she was 5# overweight.  Not to long ago she said she was glad I was losing weight, but, she would be upset if I got smaller than her.  We are 58 not 15.  If I have a 'food police', it is my 7 year old grand daughter.  She will tell me when she thinks I have eatten enough, "Nana, you don't want to get sick again."   She worries if I throw up which I did constantly the first 4 months.  My mom was always on le about my weight.  She would have had a cow if whe had been around when I decided to have the surgery.  She wasn't very supportive about things like that.  I had a hysterectomy when I was 38.  I couldn't leave the house when I had my period without wearing a diaper cause I flowed so hard.  I asked her what was I supposed to do.  She said I should just stay home like she did. Really friend are sooo supportive of my decision and constantly tell me how good I look.  I don't really see it even though I have lost 130#.  Still have the fat girl mentality.

Good luck with your family I think you are going to need it.

 How sweet is that that your grand-daughter says that.  I think if I had a 7 year old saying something with such concern it would make me think twice.

I have no advice about your family. They are where they are. It's all their choice and their situation.
My hope is that you will continue to put yourself first. You deserve it. Your children deserve it.
Deb T>

I can so relate with you, Nik! I am having problems with my husband who said he was on board with our new healthy way of eating only to catch him sneaking out and eating fast food with our kids almost every day! When I confronted him, he said you made a change, not us. This really hurt.

I think about the health of my kids and it scares me to think about there future. My youngest is four and she will only eat crappy foods like Mac n cheese, cheeseburgers and Chips. Seriously, she went almost a week of not eating because she didn't like what i made before I finally broke down and let her have a burger!

My friends have all pretty much deserted me because as they told me I'm not fun anymore because I can't eat, drink and party right now. My best friend actually told me she will hang out with me this summer again because I should be back to my old self then! I felt like screaming No I Won't! They just don't get it. So for now I am just focusing on me.