being the food police
I notice, but I keep it to myself. Last night we were at a casino and took a break for a snack. We got an order of hot wings (the pieces not the whole wings) and I ate two (they were pretty big) and a couple of pieces of celery' the husband at the rest. I watched around.. the whole bar scene, and noticed the nearest couple had ordered 3 appetizers before their meal (including an order of these huge wings). And this was a "normal" -sized couple.
My husband eats a very limited, not quite healthy, diet but he does not overeat. He has been more conscientious about his weight since mine has been coming off. For the first time in his life he's had to worry about that 20 he's gained since high school (so hard for me to relate to).
The bigger issue I have with him, is in our closer "circle of friends" several have had one weight loss surgery or another. My husband is very blunt; whereas, I am more subtle. He knows my plan and he knows I stick to it religiously. He tries to impart my rules on others, especially those who have had surgery within a few months of mine. I've had to kick him under the table when we were out with friends about a month after my surgery. A friend (about 3 months out then) put down about 3-4 alcholic drinks (with straws) in about an hour and was eating breaded this, and breaded that, and cake. He confronted her, and I kicked him and said.. her plan is her plan, I can only be in charge of mine. And at a month out, I had another friend who had her stomach stapled years ago and has been successful, try to continue to push an acholic drink on me... and I continued to say, I can't do that. She didn't understand why because she was never given that rule. I also have another set of friends of our, who failed RNY, but then found out their entire support group (8 people) all had the same surgeon and failed. When I told them about my rules, they said they were never given any rules. This is the same couple we went on a cruise with a year ago, who asked us to bring back a case of pop and chocolate candy at a port (because they didn't like the ship's pop and candy choices). They were post op about 6 months (where I am at now). I don't understand how there are these differences because I couldn't put down regular pop and regular chocolates if I wanted to. Anyway, she is actually getting set up to have a RNY revision (it seems their surgery was botched).
Ok, end rant and tangential thoughts...
My husband eats a very limited, not quite healthy, diet but he does not overeat. He has been more conscientious about his weight since mine has been coming off. For the first time in his life he's had to worry about that 20 he's gained since high school (so hard for me to relate to).
The bigger issue I have with him, is in our closer "circle of friends" several have had one weight loss surgery or another. My husband is very blunt; whereas, I am more subtle. He knows my plan and he knows I stick to it religiously. He tries to impart my rules on others, especially those who have had surgery within a few months of mine. I've had to kick him under the table when we were out with friends about a month after my surgery. A friend (about 3 months out then) put down about 3-4 alcholic drinks (with straws) in about an hour and was eating breaded this, and breaded that, and cake. He confronted her, and I kicked him and said.. her plan is her plan, I can only be in charge of mine. And at a month out, I had another friend who had her stomach stapled years ago and has been successful, try to continue to push an acholic drink on me... and I continued to say, I can't do that. She didn't understand why because she was never given that rule. I also have another set of friends of our, who failed RNY, but then found out their entire support group (8 people) all had the same surgeon and failed. When I told them about my rules, they said they were never given any rules. This is the same couple we went on a cruise with a year ago, who asked us to bring back a case of pop and chocolate candy at a port (because they didn't like the ship's pop and candy choices). They were post op about 6 months (where I am at now). I don't understand how there are these differences because I couldn't put down regular pop and regular chocolates if I wanted to. Anyway, she is actually getting set up to have a RNY revision (it seems their surgery was botched).
Ok, end rant and tangential thoughts...
Kelly - up until now I've done what you do - BUT these last two weeks with my mom & step-dad both in ER and then in hospital (admitted two days apart, then in same hospital for 5 days, then step-dad stayed in 2 days longer in CICU), I'm saying something.
Both are overweight. They eat junk and alot of sweets. I think taking a drive and eating food are their recreation. My step-dad is legally blind. Their immune systems are "shot" from poor eating. They get little exercise.
I'm so worn out from working my job and spending so much time at the hospitals. I told mom they have to cut down on white sugar, white flour and soda pop. They eat so many refined white carbs and it predisposes them to their poor health.
I guess I can keep my mouth closed with most people - but when I'm directly affected and care about their future quality of life - I did speak up. I and my daughter-in-law are going to help them read labels and make better choices. My mom, especially, seems open to being healthier.
I totally understand their dilemna - I am a carboholic - in remission. I know how I used flour/sugar to feel good and run away from emotions. I feel so much better, am healthier, have stamina and energy. This is the only time since RNY that I've been outspoken without someone asking me for advice.
Good topic - thanks.
Both are overweight. They eat junk and alot of sweets. I think taking a drive and eating food are their recreation. My step-dad is legally blind. Their immune systems are "shot" from poor eating. They get little exercise.
I'm so worn out from working my job and spending so much time at the hospitals. I told mom they have to cut down on white sugar, white flour and soda pop. They eat so many refined white carbs and it predisposes them to their poor health.
I guess I can keep my mouth closed with most people - but when I'm directly affected and care about their future quality of life - I did speak up. I and my daughter-in-law are going to help them read labels and make better choices. My mom, especially, seems open to being healthier.
I totally understand their dilemna - I am a carboholic - in remission. I know how I used flour/sugar to feel good and run away from emotions. I feel so much better, am healthier, have stamina and energy. This is the only time since RNY that I've been outspoken without someone asking me for advice.
Good topic - thanks.
Penny Highest Weight 255 * Wt loss includes 19 lb lost before surgery
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