asking for help

 I usually send out an email to my Christian womens group and ask them to pray.  If they fell led to then they will help out anyway that they can. 

I do the same thing Loveshinesthru.  We have a single person that we email and start a prayer chain.  Often someone is "lead" to help. 
Sorry you are feeling bad Kelly.  You help so many OH.  You definately DESERVE help when you need it :)

 I also am sorry that you are having problems right now. You are especially helpful to everyone here. Please ask your neighbor or friends for help. You are not asking for a lot. (Wish I lived closer) Keep us posted to how you're feeling. Take good care of yourself!

I'm thinking about you.  Like another poster said, you are always here for everyone else. 

Because of how much help you offer to all of us here on OH, myself included, I'd bet you are pretty much the same, with your family and friends, in your personal life, so now it's your turn. Don't feel it's too much to ask. You'd be surprised how good it can make a friend or someone close to you feel, just because they realize you have considered them trustworthy to help you in turn. I hope you get through this difficult time. Big hugs, Sharon.

example. my brother needed help with blood pressure meds and never would ask. he said he didnt want to be a "charity case".... well he died at the age of 50 with a brain anurysm because of his blood pressure. :(.. my mother gets mad when she needs things and nobody gets her that stuff. but i always tell her , how do i know u need something (i can not read your mind) . but im quilty about not askin as well. i always think a good friend comes around and knows what help you need.
but i do without alot . i think everybody has these issues. but i would just simply ask. thats the only way to get the help you need. if i were closer . id come spend the day , we would get the job done ... 

I think we don't ask for help because we don't want to be perceived as WEAK or needing help. I'd personally rather pay someone (like someone else mentioned here) if I am able than ask for physical help to do something. I don't know why, because I am always willing to help someone out when they need it and I don't think they are bad people for asking for it.

I have a friend whose husband was overseas (military) last year. She had knee surgery, and was home with her two kids. One of them woke up in the middle of the night puking, and the other soon followed suit. By morning, she was sick too. Her husband was due home in two days, she had errands to run, his car to pick up, she wanted her house clean - and she didn't call me. (Someone I talk to everyday, and she didn't even mention it.) I was SO angry at her for taking all that on herself, and I would have gladly dropped my stuff to help her. But I also understand because I wouldn't have wanted anyone to see me that sick or my house that dirty. But a true friend doesn't care.

Just saw this post.  Your message really hit home.  I've been putting off a colonoscopy because I don't want to ask anyone to give me a ride home afterwards.  How silly is that?  Asking for help is something I am really bad at.  All my life I've had to project this image of having it all together and not needing anything from anyone.  You'd think after 2 bouts with cancer, I would have learned to take care of myself.  Asking for help IS taking care of myself!  So, yes, I know how difficult it is.  As other posters have said, if we lived closer we would be over to help you in a heartbeat.  Therefore, I know there is someone nearby who would also love to help you.  I hope you get some assistance and feel better soon! 

Kelly,

I agree with all of the posts given to you.  I was raised to never ask for anything - you get what you get and if you want something done - do it yourself.  Pretty negative, huh.  I do not like asking for help and when I was out for my surgery in a lot of pain - I expected my family to run to help me.  My younger sister came to give me some emotional support - but not physical help.  My husband did some of the house cleaning - his way. I hired a cleaning woman to come in every two weeks for the basics.  I found her online at Care.com or something like that.  She was not that expensive and it was only for a few times.  Once I felt better I took care of the house.

Call your best friend and let them know what is going on and that you would appreciate their help with cleaning the kitchen and the litter boxes.

I would, but I am nowhere near Ohio..................... ( In Mississippi)!!!  And I wish I knew someone in Ohio.................. WOW! Just made me realize that!  But I am sending prayers your way!!