Other people's opinions
Truthfully, I didn't care what anyone else thought. In fact I came home and told my hubby I was looking into WLS. He didn't get a large vote either. LOL. Thankfully he's been great about supporting me. I really don't get the whole "my family says I shouldn't do XXX so now I'm rethinking my decision" especially when those people don't know anything about XXX. If my family hasn't done any research into XXX than they don't really get any vote. Now, If they can pull out some research that SHOWS me why I shouldn't do XXX and can give FACTS and not feelings than I'll put a little more stock into what they are saying. But that's just me.
Katie
Ht. 5'2 HW 234/GW 150/LW 128/CW 132 Size 18/20 to a size 4 in 9 months!
Ht. 5'2 HW 234/GW 150/LW 128/CW 132 Size 18/20 to a size 4 in 9 months!
Kelly, I believe you're right about the WAY we tell people.
I decided to keep my surgery private because a lot of people who know me are not afraid to tell me what I should and shouldn't do or that they have a friend/family member who gained all of their weight back. Negativity is like a poison to me and a try to stay away from it when I can.
My dad is probably THE most opinionated person I know. When I finally broke the news to my parents, I stated matter of factly that this is a decision I had made and it was not up for discussion. (The next words out of my father's mouth were, "Have you tried other things?")
At work, I only told those people who absolutely needed to know. Some people know that I had surgery and when a couple of them have asked "What kind?" I either respond, "It's of a private nature." or "I had a sex change operation." Either response shuts them up.
My husband, who had RNY two and a half years ago, is my support system. I'm at a place in my life where I don't need outside compliments or encouragement right now. I'm seeing the results for myself and am content with what the scale, the mirror, my clothes, and my body are telling me.
I must say, though, people will say the darndest things and stick their noses in other people's business where it does NOT belong:
"Honey, why aren't you married yet? Aren't there any boys you like?" (When I was 26 and single.)
"So, when are you due?" (To my fat, pre-op belly.)
"Did you have your tubes tied?" (After the birth of my second child.)
"Well, I don't think it's good for you not to eat meat. You need to eat meat."
"You need to give your newborn water to drink so he won't get thirsty." (I was breastfeeding.)
Of course, I could sit here all day and add to the list. **big eye roll**
I decided to keep my surgery private because a lot of people who know me are not afraid to tell me what I should and shouldn't do or that they have a friend/family member who gained all of their weight back. Negativity is like a poison to me and a try to stay away from it when I can.
My dad is probably THE most opinionated person I know. When I finally broke the news to my parents, I stated matter of factly that this is a decision I had made and it was not up for discussion. (The next words out of my father's mouth were, "Have you tried other things?")
At work, I only told those people who absolutely needed to know. Some people know that I had surgery and when a couple of them have asked "What kind?" I either respond, "It's of a private nature." or "I had a sex change operation." Either response shuts them up.
My husband, who had RNY two and a half years ago, is my support system. I'm at a place in my life where I don't need outside compliments or encouragement right now. I'm seeing the results for myself and am content with what the scale, the mirror, my clothes, and my body are telling me.
I must say, though, people will say the darndest things and stick their noses in other people's business where it does NOT belong:
"Honey, why aren't you married yet? Aren't there any boys you like?" (When I was 26 and single.)
"So, when are you due?" (To my fat, pre-op belly.)
"Did you have your tubes tied?" (After the birth of my second child.)
"Well, I don't think it's good for you not to eat meat. You need to eat meat."
"You need to give your newborn water to drink so he won't get thirsty." (I was breastfeeding.)
Of course, I could sit here all day and add to the list. **big eye roll**
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