Has anyone seen the movie Disfigured?

 There is a lot I like about it but there is a lot I don't like. They kind of look down upon weight loss surgery in it which really ****** me off A LOT but I like a lot about the movie! It shows the world I used to live where people treat fat people like crap and look down on fat people. A lot of the movie shows a fat acceptance group talking about things and it is so relateable. So even though I don't like the WLS part of the movie (which is very brief) I think you should give it a try.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0830535/

Synopsis - 
Lydia is an overweight sales clerk in a trendy home furnishings store, nearing 30. Though she is a member of a Fat Acceptance Group (a movement dedicated to fighting prejudice against overweight people), she is still struggling with complex feelings about her body and its place in the world. Darcy, a recovering-anorexic real estate agent in her mid-20s, is struggling with the same issues from a very different perspective. Her attempt to join the Fat Acceptance Group (since she sees herself as fat) is quickly rejected - but it introduces her to Lydia. Lydia is initially wary of Darcy's efforts to become friends, but Darcy's hunger for emotional contact breaks through the wall of apparent differences and they begin an unexpected friendship. At the same time Lydia gets involved in a sexual relationship with Bob, an overweight man who joins her in walking for exercise early mornings at Venice beach. Stirred emotionally by this new romance and by her conflict with the Fat Acceptance Group, Lydia decides to ask her new friend for an unusual favor: she wants anorexia lessons. When Darcy lets Lydia inside her secret inner world, it forces both women to confront buried feelings about their bodies. Sexuality and fashion, anger and femininity, trust and fear, hunger and satisfaction: there are things that women can only talk about honestly with other women. But they never seem to find a way to do it. This is a movie about two women who do.

I have seen it.  I thought it was good.  Maybe I'll watch it again.

It was interesting to me how unaccepting the fat acceptance people were of the skinny woman.  And yeah, there are some experiences that fat people may have that many skinny people do not have, but the underlying issue was that people make assumptions about us and judge us based on our size, whether we are big or small.  I always wonder why so many people see themselves as separate from others and don't want to share the fight, if that makes sense.  Whatever the fight is.

I'm also confused about why the whole fat acceptance movement is so anti-WLS and just anti-weight loss by any means.  Like if I want to accept myself when I am fat, you choosing to lose weight somehow takes away from my self-acceptance.  That doesn't make sense.  If I want you to accept me, no matter how much I weight, then shouldn't I accept you, no matter how much you weigh?  Even if you used to weigh as much as me and now you weigh less?

 I think it is surprising too but I also think this movie was just SO accurate. The main character goes through what it is like dieting a lot and her body image and it is interesting that the anorexic character and overweight character can relate so much. I thought the acting was great and the message was just so real.

The thing with fat acceptance is I am all for it BUT the thing with being fat is that it isn't healthy. I wish I could agree that fat people are fine and I think their bodies should be more accepted but the reason I had surgery was for my health, not because how I look. 

I agree that it's usually not very healthy to be fat.    However, we accept lots and lots of people in this society that are not perfectly healthy.  For some reason when it comes to weight, we seem to think that it's our place to decide what people should do in order to be healthy or that if they don't conform to our ideas of what being healthy means, we can't really accept them.