Sometimes I forget..
That I don't look obese anymore and that people don't realize that I was.
Last weekend my husband and I went to a Labor Day party. A few of my friends were there but most of the people I hadn't met before. I ended up sitting next to a very nice woman and chatting about lots of things. When people started grazing on appetizers and such she mentioned that even though she was hungry she wouldn't go get food since people would think "the water buffalo" - her words not mine - would eat all the food. Even though she laughed, it struck a cord with me and I remarked that I understood completely. All of a sudden, she just shut down. She gave me a dirty look and said "yeah, right. I'm sure you do" and walked away.
It actually took me a few minutes to figure out what I had done wrong. She hadn't met me before and had no idea I was ever overweight so to her I was just another average figured person patronizing the heavy lady. I felt horrible. I explained later and was able to smooth things over but I realized it is wierd - I still think of myself as being really heavy.
How long does it take to shake that mindset?
Last weekend my husband and I went to a Labor Day party. A few of my friends were there but most of the people I hadn't met before. I ended up sitting next to a very nice woman and chatting about lots of things. When people started grazing on appetizers and such she mentioned that even though she was hungry she wouldn't go get food since people would think "the water buffalo" - her words not mine - would eat all the food. Even though she laughed, it struck a cord with me and I remarked that I understood completely. All of a sudden, she just shut down. She gave me a dirty look and said "yeah, right. I'm sure you do" and walked away.
It actually took me a few minutes to figure out what I had done wrong. She hadn't met me before and had no idea I was ever overweight so to her I was just another average figured person patronizing the heavy lady. I felt horrible. I explained later and was able to smooth things over but I realized it is wierd - I still think of myself as being really heavy.
How long does it take to shake that mindset?
Lowest Weight: 145 lbs
Current weight: 148.6 lbs
Total Loss: 226 lbs
I was driving down the street the other day and I saw a sign for a sale on plus sized clothes and I started to head in that direction before I realized that I didn't wear plus size clothes any more and haven't for many months. I don't know how long it takes to not think that way.
WLS 10/28/2002 Revision 7/23/2010
High Weight (2002) 240 Revision Weight (2010) 220 Current Weight 115.
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